Popular author and speaker Jay Payleitner shows that becoming one includes more than just staying married. It's not just about compromise. And it's not just about sacrifice and mutual submission. And it's not just about sex. It's about unity. Solidarity. Integrity.
But how do you nurture oneness in the real world?
In these 52 short readings, you'll find fun, creative ways you and your spouse can embrace a common purpose and shared dreams. Jay addresses head-on some of the obstacles to oneness and suggests out-of-the-box solutions for overcoming them.
- Share dreams.
- Never compromise.
- Hit bottom together.
- Pay off the credit cards.
- Kiss in the kitchen.
- Laugh together. Cry together.
- Serve. Be served.
Sometimes spiritual, sometimes silly, but always practical, winsome, and wise, these ideas for drawing closer to each other and enjoying your unique connection will inspire and equip you to make your marriage better than ever.
|Publisher:||Harvest House Publishers|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)|
About the Author
Jay Payleitner is one of the top freelance Christian radio producers in the United States. He has worked on Josh McDowell Radio, Today's Father, Jesus Freaks Radio for the Voice of the Martyrs, Project Angel Tree with Chuck Colson, and many others. He’s also a popular speaker on parenting and marriage and the author of dozen-plus books, including the bestselling 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad, 52 Things Wives Need from a Husband, and 52 Things Sons Need from Their Dad; he also created “The Dad Manifesto.” Jay has also served as an AWANA director, a wrestling coach, and the executive director of the Illinois Fatherhood Initiative; he now partners with the National Center for Fathering, whose efforts he fosters and promotes. He and his wife, Rita, live near Chicago, where they’ve raised five great kids and loved on ten foster babies.
Table of Contents
1 To Elevate Expectations 11
2 To Stop Guessing 14
3 To Work on Your Marriage Together 17
4 To See the Seasons 19
5 To List Likes 23
6 To Haunt the Old Haunts 27
7 To Kiss in the Kitchen for the Sake of the Kids 30
8 To Put Sex on the Calendar 32
9 To Stop Having Pretend Conversations 35
10 To Do Stuff 39
11 To Do Stuff Slow and Easy 42
12 To See Marriage as Jesus Sees It 45
13 To Jab Less 48
14 To Stroke More 52
15 To Prayer Walk 56
16 To Hit Bottom Together 59
17 To Help Each Other Find Answers 62
18 To Keep It Clean 66
19 To Admit You're Different and Be Glad 69
20 To Rescue Humanity 73
21 To Identify a Couple Go-To Couples 75
22 To Read Ephesians 5:22 in Context 78
23 To Connect Despite the Kids 81
24 To Connect Because of the Kids 84
25 To Do unto Each Other 87
26 To Pull the Trigger 90
27 To Save Up for a Second Honeymoon 94
28 To Think Twice About Going Solo to the Kennedy Space Center 96
29 To Leave Notes 100
30 To Cherish Anniversaries 103
31 To Split Vacations 107
32 To Acknowledge Sex as a Spiritual Act 109
33 To Cry and Laugh Together 113
34 To Do a 180 on Those Bad Habits 117
35 To Insist on the Real Thing 121
36 To Pay Off Their Credit Cards 125
37 To Tell Their Story 128
38 To Know the Traditional Roles 131
39 To Make Sure the Puke Gets Cleaned Up 135
40 To Give Their Bedspread a Good Shake 139
41 To Find a Church Home 142
42 To Sometimes Be Skipper and Gilligan 145
43 To Talk It Out 148
44 To Conspire for a Higher Purpose 151
45 To Be Tourists in Their Hometown 155
46 To Reach Back 157
47 To Build Hedges 160
48 To Not Believe Everything They Hear About Marriage 163
49 To Take a Fresh Look at the Love Chapter 167
50 To Rebuild Love 170
51 To Feel Safe 173
52 To End Their Days Well 176
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
52 Ways to Connect as a Couple by Jay Payleitner is packed full of fun and practical advice for couples. You can read it all at one time or take one reading a week and share with your spouse. The ‘Question to Ask Out Loud’ section was one of my favorites. You can still learn about your spouse even after being married 10 years. This section is great to start conversations. The 52 readings range from fun (To Do Stuff), to serious (To Give Their Bedspread a Good Shake) and to thoughtful (To See the Seasons) and to adventurous (To Put Sex on the Calendar) I also felt Jay shares thoughts from a male perspective that women may not intuitively know that were helpful.