Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution For Women

Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution For Women

by Susan Edelman

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Overview

How to Get Modern Dating to Work for Your Love Life
Today's dating culture is a minefield. With tricky dos and don'ts and endless conflicting strategies, women are more confused than ever. You could be hurting yourself and not even know it, but psychiatrist Susan L. Edelman says:

It's not your fault.

Thirty years of listening to the deepest secrets of patients has allowed Dr. Edelman to unlock the mystery of why women don't get what they want from men. She says dating doesn't have to be filled with angst and disappointment anymore.

It's time to change the game.

Dr. Edelman will give you the tools to date on your own terms, actually enjoy the process, and find happiness. Yes, all that is possible with Dr. Edelman's transformative method.

Join the revolution. Be your own Brand of Sexy.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781942343202
Publisher: Options Press
Publication date: 02/14/2018
Series: Be Your Own Brand of Sexy , #1
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 272
File size: 441 KB

About the Author

Hi! I'm Dr. Susan Edelman. I'm a psychiatrist and an Adjunct Clinical Associate Professor at Stanford. Over the last 30 years of private practice, I've realized a dangerous trend. Despite advances, women across generations still struggle with having a voice and standing up for themselves. We think it's getting better, but it's not. That same struggle is why they don't get what they want from men. It's painful, and in many cases, it stops them from getting what they want out of life. My patients deserve better--and this is not just a problem for my wonderful patients. It's global, and we need a new revolution to create change. That's why I wrote this book and created a lot of free content for you. I want to support the women who will never walk through my office door yet need a helping hand. My book has won 14 awards, and has been called "...a must have book for all women dating or looking to date." Please visit me at www.beyourownbrandofsexy.com for a lot more information. Join the Revolution! Be your own Brand of Sexy.

Table of Contents

Preface xv

Acknowledgements xvii

Disclaimer xxi

1 Why We Need a New Sexual Revolution: You Always Have a Choice 1

Wht Do you Think?

Five Guidelines to Being Your Own Brand of Sexy

Why Is It Valuable to Be Your Own Brand of Sexy?

Owning Your Options

What Went Wrong?

Why We Need a New Sexual Revolution

Learning to Be Your Own Brand of sexy

The How-Tos of the New Sexual Revolution-Being Your Own Brand of Sexy and Sisterhood

Sisterhood

2 Media and Peer Pressure Solutions Might Not Be Right for you 21

Explosive Changes: The Old Revolutions

Sex sells

Something Gained, Something Lost

The Rise of the Hookup Culture and the Demise of Romance-The Confusion of Casual Sex and How Slow Can Be Sexy

Men Are Struggling Too

They Tyranny of Beauty and the Power of Sisterhood

Teenage Sexuality: The Powder Keg

Somewhere in the Middle

Is Protecting Your Heart Passé?

So What Now?

3 Know Where You're Going 51

Is More Better?

Herd Mentality

Sex Is All Around

What's Girl Supposed to Do?

Self-Help

What do you Want?

At-Home Exercises: What Would you Do?

What Do You Think?

l4 Consider How We're "Built" 67

Don't Believe Everything You Read

Are We From Different Planets?

What Do Women Want?

Chemical Attraction

Casual Sex

Humanity Revisited

What Do You Want…and Are You Built for What You Want?

The Bottom Line

5 Protect Your Heart: Slow Can Be Sexy 87

Are Rules Meant to Be Broken?

Drawing a Line Requires Finding One

Reality or Delusion?

Bringing Sir Galahad Back from the Dead?

Expect Respect

Risky Business

Protecting Ourselves

6 Emotional Hygiene: Your Voice Matter 105

How Do You Feel? Getting in Touch With Your Emotions

Mind Games

Obsessionland

More Than a Feeling: Intuition

Can You Trust Your Instincts?

Looking for Patterns

Influence: Stand Up for Yourself

What Are We So Afraid of? Conflict, Rejection, and Anger-Oh, My!

Nothing to Fear but Fear Itself

Inner Beauty

"To Thine Own Self Be True"

7 Plan Your Strategy: If a Guy Isn't Respecting Your Voice, Move ON 133

Single Woman's 12-Piece Dating Toolbox

Using Your Toolbox: Making These Strategies Work for You

8 Script Your New Game: A Dating Quiz 165

Quiz Results Review

9 When Self-Help Books Aren't Enough 117

Obsessionland

Shame City

Loss Planet

When Self-Help Books Aren't Enough for You

10 Your Next Chapter 187

How Far We've Come

Take the First Step

Communication is Everything

Next Steps

Figure Out What Works for You

Try It Out

Reward Yourself Again

A New Sexual Revolution

Five Guidelines to Being Your Own Brand of Sexy

Sisterhood Is Powerful

You Say You Want a Revolution

A New Appreciation for Our Differences

Is It OK to Look Sexy?

Looking Good and Doing Good

Confidence Is Sexy-Self-Knowledge Is Power

Moving Forward

References 209

Appendix A Related Books and Articles 223

Index 227

What People are Saying About This

Ellen Haller

If you want to put an end to heartbreak and finally find the man for you, read this groundbreaking book!

Hans Steiner

"Navigating the gender divide has never been easy, but in some ways, it has even become more complicated following the Feminist Revolution of the past few decades. In my own psychiatric practice, I hear about very similar complaints and confusions which Dr. Edelman, a seasoned practitioner, scholar and valued colleague, describes in her book. Maintaining a strong individually based perspective, while helping the reader ­ and presumably her patients ­ thoughtfully navigate between the extremes of idiosyncrasy and pressure packed prescriptive norms, Dr. Edelman shows the reader how to craft a solution which fits their own personal needs without sacrificing respectable standards of a satisfying partnership. It is with great pleasure and deep respect that I see this manuscript reach its final stages of publication. I think it will rapidly become a much needed classic in its own right."

Mali Mann

This is an important book. It reveals sociology and psychological insights for young women to explore who they are and make romantic decisions wisely. Additionally, Dr. Edelman’s call for a return to sisterhood is compelling. Women will learn much from her wisdom.

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Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 4 reviews.
gulfcoastsinger More than 1 year ago
BE YOUR OWN BRAND OF SEXY Susan L Edelman, MD This is by far the best relationship book that I have ever read. I learned more in the first two chapters of this book than in most of the other books I have read on this subject. Dr Edelman not only filled this book with knowledge, but she also filled the book with examples of the situations she was talking about. It was extremely interesting to read. Also, the book has so many references where you can do more reading on what Dr Edelman is talking about. One of the things I like most about this book is that it is for everybody. It touches on situations every woman, whether young or old, has to face in the dating world. I think the main ideas that came across to me were to be myself and to say what I mean and not what is expected of me. This book was great to read and I have tons of yellow marker on whole sections of it. If you are looking for a book that teaches you, but is also an interesting read then this is the book for you.
ReadersFavorite More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Roy T. James for Readers' Favorite Be Your Own Brand of Sexy by Susan L. Edelman, MD. is about the next sexual revolution. The first sexual revolution promised women more choices, enabled them in expressing themselves better and blew an air of liberation, but cultural limitations today still hinder women’s choices. Permissible dating behavior and levels of intimacy are some of the more obvious areas needing change. When women, as a result of the first revolution, did let go of the old constrictions, they in fact ended up replacing the old ones with even more impracticable demands, a sexual imagery highly taxing as well as impractical. Gone also are the identifiable metaphors such as chivalry, courtship and others linked with romance. A casual look at the sales data of fictional romances of any reputable publisher can easily show to what degree women have been missing this in their lives, and how they are always trying to compensate through these imaginary creations. Be Your Own Brand of Sexy by Susan L. Edelman, MD. examines this quandary and offers certain solutions to encourage each woman to decide what’s best for her, regardless of cultural expectations. Rather than attempting another revolution which might end up in more shackles, Susan implores women to maintain their own brand of sexism, realize that women are beautiful in their differences, and reject the totally unrealistic sexual imagery they are constantly bombarded with. This is a thorough study on the many facets of womanhood; almost all the social transactions analyzed are easily identifiable in daily life.
KachinaRW More than 1 year ago
Susan Edelman MD has written a cultural manifesto for women, that honors femininity, sexual intimacy, and the unique voice of sisterhood. Within the covers of this graceful book is a quiet revolution: one less concerned with power, than with self-esteem and self-affirmation.  The aesthetics of beauty, the risks of being alone, rejected, stigmatized or shamed are carefully re-examined. Women of all ages are invited  to dispel the marketing of specialized forms of allure, and to find their particular  affinities, and ways of sharing their unique qualities of personhood- their own brand of sexiness.!  The hidden irony of this book is its relevance for men,as well as for women, regardless of gender identity and/or  sexual object choice. Any one who doubts the superb contribution this book makes to personal  and social well-being are urged to scan the chapter headings and the remarkable index. Dr. Edelman has brought a tone of real dignity to the beauty of sexual relating, however variable our inner and outer bodies may be. Randall Weingarten, M.D.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book impresses me. It is more than it might seem to be on first read, easily the best of the "dating for women" category, clearly written, engaging and useful. Just as important, it is an insightful look at a tough 21st century developmental challenge facing almost every individual at one time or another. It should also be of interest to parents, brothers and all the guys who seek to understand themselves and their future partners. It has a place on my bookshelf. I will enjoy and learn from rereading it. Charles W. Casella, M.D.