Beauty for Ashes: Receiving Emotional Healing

Beauty for Ashes: Receiving Emotional Healing

by Joyce Meyer


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Many people seem to have it all together outwardly, but inside they are a wreck. Their past has broken, crushed, and wounded them inwardly. They can be healed. God has a plan, and Isaiah 61 reveals that the Lord came to heal the brokenhearted. He wants to heal victims of abuse and emotional wounding. Joyce Meyer is a victim of the physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse she suffered as a child. Yet today she has a nationwide ministry of emotional healing to others like herself. In Beauty for Ashes she outlines major truths that brought healing in her life and describes how other victims of abuse can also experience God's healing in their lives. You will learn: * How to Deal with the Emotional Pain of Abuse * How to Understand Your Responsibility to God for Overcoming Abuse * Why Victims of Abuse Often Suffer from Other Addictive Behaviors * How to Grab Hold of God's Unconditional Love * The Importance of God's Timing in Working Through Painful Memories.

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ISBN-13: 9780446692595
Publisher: FaithWords
Publication date: 11/28/2003
Edition description: REV
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 203,547
Product dimensions: 8.00(w) x 5.20(h) x 0.95(d)

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Beauty for Ashes

Receiving Emotional Healing
By Joyce Meyer

Warner Books

Copyright © 1994 Joyce Meyer
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0446691151

Chapter One


Some of the terms Webster's Dictionary uses to define "abuse" are: (verb) - "misuse"; "to use wrongly"; "to hurt by treating badly"; "mistreat"; "to use insulting, coarse or bad language about or to"; "revile"; (noun) - "wrong, bad, or excessive use"; "mistreatment"; "injury"; "a bad, unjust, or corrupt custom or practice"; "insulting or coarse language."

I believe that most people are abused in one way or another during their lifetime. Some common forms of abuse are: physical, verbal, emotional and sexual. Whatever form it may take, abuse causes a root of rejection, which is a major problem in our day. God created people for love and acceptance, but the devil works hard to keep us feeling rejected because he knows how rejection injures us emotionally and otherwise.

The above-mentioned types of abuse - whether they take the form of broken relationships, abandonment, divorce, false accusations, exclusion from groups, dislike by teachers and other authority figures, ridicule by peers or any one of hundreds of other such hurtful actions - can and do cause emotional wounds which can hinder people in their efforts to maintain healthy, lasting relationships.

Have you been abused? Misused? Treated wrongly orimproperly? Rejected? Has it affected your emotional state? Do you really want to be healed? Do you want to get well?

One of my favorite Scriptures (but a startling one) is John 5:5,6. In this passage Jesus is described as seeing a man lying by the pool of Bethesda who had been sick with a deep-seated and lingering disease for thirty-eight years. Knowing how long this poor man had been in that terrible condition, Jesus asked him, ... Do you want to become well? [Are you really in earnest about getting well?] (v. 6).

What kind of a question is that to ask someone who has been hurting for that long? It is a proper question because not everyone wants to get well badly enough to do what is required. Wounded emotions can become a prison that locks self in and others out. Jesus came to open prison doors and to set the captives free! (Luke 4:18.)

This man, like so many people today, had a deep-seated and lingering disorder for a long, long time. After thirty-eight years, he had learned, I am sure, how to function with his disorder. People who are in prison function, but they are not free. However, sometimes prisoners - whether physical or emotional - become so accustomed to being in bondage that they settle in with their condition and learn to live with it.

Are you an "emotional prisoner"? If so, how long have you been in that condition? Is it a deep-seated and lingering disorder? Do you want to be free of it? Do you really want to be well? Jesus wants to heal you. He is willing; are you?

Do You Want To Be Free and Well?

Gaining freedom from emotional bondage is not easy. I will be honest from the beginning and say, point blank, that for many, many people reading this book, it will not be easy. It will provoke feelings and emotions they have been "stuffing" rather than facing and dealing with. You may be one of those people. You may have experienced feelings and emotions in the past that have been too painful to deal with, so each time they have come to the surface you have said to God, "I'm not ready yet. Lord! I'll face that problem later!"

This book will deal not only with the emotional pain caused by what others may have done to you, but also with your responsibility to God for overcoming those traumas and getting well.

Some people (actually a great number of people) have a hard time accepting personal responsibility. In these pages we will deal in a very practical way with forgiveness, repressed anger, self-pity, the chip-on-the-shoulder syndrome, the you-owe-me attitude and many, many other poisonous mental and emotional attitudes that will need cleansing if you are ever to be fully well.

You may be asking, "But, who will deal with the person who hurt me?" We will get around to that issue too. You may also be wondering, "What makes this woman think that she is such an authority on the subject of emotions - especially mine?" You may have questions you would like to ask me, such as: "Do you have a degree in psychology? Where did you do your study? Have you been through any of the things I am going through? How do you know what it is like to be caught in an emotional prison?"

I have answers to all those questions, and if you are brave enough to face your situation and have determined that you really want to get well, then read on.

I Was Abused

My schooling, degrees, experience and qualifications to teach on this subject come from personal experience. I always say, "I graduated from the school of life." I claim the words of the prophet Isaiah as my diploma:

The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me, because the Lord has anointed and qualified me to preach the Gospel of good tidings to the meek, the poor, and afflicted; He has sent me to bind up and heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the [physical and spiritual] captives, and the opening of the prison and of the eyes to those who are bound.

Isaiah 61:1

In verses two and three Isaiah goes on to say:

To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord [the year for His favor] and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn;

To grant [consolation and joy] to those who mourn ... to give them an ornament (a garland or diadem) of beauty instead of ashes....

God has exchanged my ashes for beauty and has called me to help others to learn to allow Him to do the same for them.

I was sexually, physically, verbally and emotionally abused from the time I can remember until I finally left home at the age of eighteen. Actually I was abused by I several men in my childhood. I have been rejected, abandoned, betrayed and divorced. I know what it is to be an "emotional prisoner."

My purpose in writing this book is not to give my full testimony in detail. Instead, I want to give you a mini-version of my own experience so that you will believe that I do know what it means to hurt and can show you how to recover from it. I want to help you, and I can do that better if you truly believe that I understand what you are going through.

Before I begin the details of my childhood and some of the things I experienced, I wish to say that in no way do I mean any of these things to be degrading to my parents. I have learned that hurting people hurt people, that most people who hurt others have been hurt by someone else. God has enabled me by His grace to say, "Father, forgive them, for they really did not know what they were doing." I tell this story only for the purpose of helping others who, like me, were abused.


Excerpted from Beauty for Ashes by Joyce Meyer Copyright © 1994 by Joyce Meyer
Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

Table of Contents

Part 1I Once Was Bound
1Trophies of Grace3
2The Ashes of Abuse8
3The Fellowship of Fear13
4Behavior Addictions Caused by Abuse25
5Rescued by Love36
6Follow the Holy Spirit47
7The Two Kinds of Pain53
8The Only Way Out Is Through63
9Let Go of the Past70
10Redeemed and Made Righteous83
11Self-Rejection or Self-Acceptance96
12Rejection's Effect on Relationships107
13The Confidence to Be Yourself114
14Forgiveness Frees You to Live Again125
Part 2But Now I Am Free
15Forgiving Your Abuser135
16Blessing Your Enemies141
17Vengeance Is the Lord's153
18Free to Rejoice with Others159
19Emotional Stability169
20Intimacy and Trust174
21Ask and Receive183
22Strengthened Within194
23Free at Last202
24Build Bridges--Not Walls211
25Nothing Will Be Wasted217
26Double for Your Trouble226
27Shake It Off235
28Miraculous Reward247

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Beauty for Ashes 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 49 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Initially, the title is what caught my attention. Once I began reading the pages I saw myself. I could only have read this book when I was actually ready to experience the restoration process. When an old house is restored, the process takes you from broken, old and unrecognizable to beautiful, breath taking, and awesome. So inspiring that other people in the neighborhood makes changes to their homes. My reason for such an experience is that once you have heard your worthless, and then you experience someone (Christ) telling even though you appear to be worthless, I will transform you into someone priceless. This book actually reveals that NO matter what I experienced in my past, I am still here AND I have been beautifully restored into a vessel that others not only will appreciate, but be inspired to 'keep moving'. Now I know that I am honorable and appreciated and made manifest in God's glory.
Kirstinator More than 1 year ago
I love this author and I love this book. Such an inspiring author she really lets you feel good about yourself! Beauty for Ashes was an a life-changing novel which allows you to truly recognize the beauty that is in the inside and on the outside. It fully identifies the love that God has for you and the way He wants you to feel. I love this book it is definitely an emotional book that allows you to take a step back to really understand the reason God has created you and the beauty that he sees within you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read this book and it helped me immensely. I highly recommend it to all who are feeling empty inside due to past abuses and addictive behaviors that keep them from moving on.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was life transforming for me. Although the backdrop deals with those who've been abused, it also deals with everyday issues such as being hurt or offended in relationships. Joyce maps out 'through her experience with abuse' how to get beyond the pain and live a healthy life. God used this book tremendously to help me identify some of my additive behaviors and how to overcome them with simplicity. I highly recommend this to anyone who has been deeply wounded 'emotionally' in any relationship.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I like that when I read this book it wasn't over my head. It was about deep subjects and complex issues but it always seemed like it was talking directly to me. It was extremely honest and showed the ways that God helps us to get out of our pain and heal.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book has helped me so much recommend it to anyone.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Joyce Meyer is definately God inspired. She has touched my heart and helped heal scars on my soul that I thought were impossible to heal. I have found a new understanding of the Word and my faith is stronger for it. I am so grateful for her gift of writing. Please, if you feel lost pick this one up.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very inspiring and encouraging.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed reading this book! Like all the other books of Joyce Meyers
magdelyn More than 1 year ago
All of Joyce Meyer books are great and very inspireing, I would reccomend it to anyone,
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Joyce Meyer's _Beauty for Ashes_ has changed my life. I am a 20-year-old college student, and I was going through a really hard time and a stranger recommended the book to my mom. I thought the cover looked "lame" and "boring" and I was positive that the book was for an older audience, but it really ended up talking to me. I could really connect to everything Joyce said; Joyce Meyer's message is timeless- because it is a message from God. She corroborates every statement with the Word of God, and many, many scripture verses that I have now taped to my mirror to read everyday. This ended up changing my life. I have read this book numerous times since then and I have added many of Joyce Meyer's other books to my bookshelves. I LOVE this book! Whenever I am having a bad day, I read a few pages- or the whole thing, and I learn many new things each time! I have given this as a gift to many of my friends experiencing hardships. If you, or anyone you know, is really struggling with a past event/trauma and is struggling to walk with God (forgive themselves, forgive others, LOVE themselves, etc.)- READ THIS BOOK! There were moments when I felt like God was talking to me through Joyce's writing. I cannot stress enough how life-altering this book has been for me! READ IT!!!!
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have finished it. I can’t tell you how much it helped me understand more the emotional feelings that I have I went through a different kind of abuse as a young woman. Going through all the pshy. Classes I took and the 2 years of therapy it never answered the “whys” as well as this book did. Helped me understand the shame feelings that I was dealing with and not being so hard on myself and how to take the “wall” down… I can’t always be on defense- just to make sure no one will do that again… everyone is going to hurt you in some way or another as I will do that as well. That doesn’t’ mean you can’t trust them, we all are human and they will make mistakes. Finally something I could read and it helped me understand some of the emotional and feelings that I was going through
butrkp More than 1 year ago
I gave this as a gift and I suspect it will be well received. Joyce Meyer is one of my favorite authors and televangelists. She tells it like it is with common sense and the bible. I will read this, too, and I'm sure I will highly recommend it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
As a fan of Joyce Meyer, forgive me for wanting to sing her praises. She proves in everything that she writes that she has a true connection with God. It is through her words and efforts that millions are able to see the light. I just love her so. For anyone who feels bound by their anger, guilt, hurt or pain, I also recommend "When God Stopped Keeping Score." I thought that the book was just about forgiveness, I soon learned, it was about so much more than that. I was about how you should deal with friends, family and yourself and more importantly, how to keep these relationships strong when things go wrong. Having read it, I feel like a better person. Maybe because this book spoke to me and not down to me. I have read a lot of books that was written like I didn't know anything. What the author of "When God Stopped Keeping Score" does is talk to you like a friend. I needed that. You will understand why when you read it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a very powerful book and you will not want to put it down. Joyce Meyers shares very powerful information about her personal life and this book makes you look a life another way and it helps you to understand the word.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wonderful book!!! Must have if you have gone threw something terrible!!! I bought more of this book to help out friends of mine!!! Must Have!!!!
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It changed my life...
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HRLady_OCA More than 1 year ago
I have not yet read the book,but the ordering process was easy and the book arrived in a very short time. I am completely satisfied.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is a great blessing - I read it thinking I was going to learn how God would bless me materially, but this actually helped me see the error in my thinking. This helps you heal spiritually - within so that you can begin to really enjoy and see the beauty in all circumstances as God is always with you. I'd recommend this to anyone looking to be free from the bondage of bitterness, resentment, fear, and the likes. Thank God for Joyce's willing spirit and obedience in writing this to help millions of people around the world, myself included.  
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This was very helpful and insightful.