The Confident Woman: Start Today Living Boldly and Without Fear

The Confident Woman: Start Today Living Boldly and Without Fear

by Joyce Meyer

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What keeps women from being their best? Joyce has been helping women better themselves by helping identify emotional barriers and physical, mental, and spiritual obstacles in their lives for years. Now she provides another answer-confidence.

Our society has an insecurity epidemic, women in particular. Compensating by pretending to be secure-a common response-only leads to feelings of shame. Lack of self-confidence causes great difficulty in relationships of all kinds, and in marriage instances can even lead to divorce.

In THE CONFIDENT WOMAN, Joyce explores the seven characteristics of a woman with confidence, which include a woman who knows she is loved, who refuses to live in fear, and who does not live by comparisons. Joyce explains that confidence stems from being positive in your actions and living honestly, but most importantly from having faith, in God and in ourselves.

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ISBN-13: 9780759568372
Publisher: FaithWords
Publication date: 09/05/2006
Sold by: Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format: NOOK Book
Sales rank: 96,718
File size: 303 KB

About the Author

Joyce Meyer is one of the world's leading practical Bible teachers. A #1 New York Times bestselling author, she has written more than eighty inspirational books, including Never Give Up!, The Secret to True Happiness, 100 Ways to Simplify Your Life, the entire Battlefield of the Mind family of books, her first venture into fiction with The Penny, and many others. She has also released thousands of audio teachings, as well as a complete video library. Joyce's Enjoying Everyday Life radio and television programs are broadcast around the world, and she travels extensively conducting conferences. Joyce and her husband, Dave, are the parents of four grown children and make their home in St. Louis, Missouri.

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The Confident Woman

Start Today Living Boldly and Without Fear
By Joyce Meyer


Copyright © 2006 Joyce Meyer
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0-446-53198-7

Chapter One


What is confidence? I believe confidence is all about being positive concerning what you can do-and not worrying over what you can't do. A confident person is open to learning, because she knows that her confidence allows her to walk through life's doorways, eager to discover what waits on the other side. She knows that every new unknown is a chance to learn more about herself and unleash her abilities.

Confident people do not concentrate on their weaknesses; they develop and maximize their strengths.

For example, on a scale of 1 to 10, I might be a 3 when it comes to playing the piano. Now, if I were to practice long and hard-and if my husband could put up with the racket-I could, maybe, transform myself into a middle-of-the road, level-5 pianist. However, as a public speaker, I might be an 8. So, if I invested my time and effort into this ability, I might just be able to get to a level 10. When you look at it this way, it's easy to see where you need to invest your efforts.

The world is not hungry for mediocrity. We really don't need a bunch of 4s and 5s running around, doing an average job in life. This world needs 10s. I believe everyone can be a 10 at something, but our problem isthat we often work so hard on trying to overcome our weakness that we never develop our strengths. Whatever we focus on grows larger in our eyes-too large, in fact. We can turn something into a huge problem when, in reality, it would be a minor nuisance if only we viewed it in perspective with our strengths. For example, let's say you are not a "numbers" kind of person. You struggle to figure out a 15% tip at restaurants, and your checkbook hasn't been balanced since 1987.

You could obsess about your inability to "do the math." You could buy Math for Dummies and other books on the subject, and maybe even take a class at the community college. But your math obsession could eat up time that could be devoted to stuff you're great at-like teaching Sunday school, creative writing, or raising funds for charity. In other words, you might rob time and effort from the 10s in your life just to bring a lowly 3 up to a mediocre 5.

Wouldn't it be much better to delegate the math stuff to someone else? Use an online bill-paying system that has built-in ways to catch errors or overdrafts? And you can always ask your dining companions to help you with figuring a tip. There are even tip guides you can carry with you.

I remember interviewing a man and his wife on our ministry's television program. I asked the man, who happened to be a minister, what his weaknesses were. His answer: "You know, I don't concentrate on them. I am sure I have some, but I couldn't tell you right now what they are because I just don't focus on them." I laughingly replied that I would ask his wife later. I was sure she would know his weaknesses, even if he didn't. When she joined us later in the broadcast, I promptly popped that question to her. She replied, "To me, my husband is perfect; I don't focus on his weaknesses. He has so many strengths that I just focus on them and help him be all he can be."

It didn't take me long to understand why these two were so happy and upbeat all the time-and why they had such a wonderful marriage. Confident people make it a habit to think and act positively. Therefore, they enjoy life, and they accomplish a lot.

A person without confidence is like an airplane sitting on a runway with empty fuel tanks. The plane has the ability to fly, but without some fuel, it's not getting off the ground. Confidence is our fuel. Our confidence, our belief that we can succeed, gets us started and helps us finish every challenge we tackle in life. Without confidence, a woman will live in fear and never feel fulfilled.

Confidence allows us to face life with boldness, openness, and honesty. It enables us to live without worry and to feel safe. It enables us to live authentically.

Confidence allows us to face life with boldness, openness, and honesty. It enables us to live without worry and to feel safe. It enables us to live authentically. We don't have to pretend to be somebody we're not, because we are secure in who we are- even if we're different from those around us. I firmly believe that confidence gives us permission to be different, to be unique. God has created every person in a unique way, yet most people spend their lives trying to be like someone else-and feeling miserable as a result. Trust me on this: God will never help you be some other person. He wants you to be you! You can be sure of this!

People with low confidence, on the other hand, are not sure about anything. They are double-minded, indecisive people who constantly get frustrated with life. If they do make a decision, they are tormented by self-doubt. They second-guess (and third- and fourth-guess) themselves. As a result, they don't live boldly. They live little, narrow lives, and they miss out on the big, rewarding lives God wants them to enjoy.

You may be aware of some of God's promises for His people-promises for peace, happiness, blessings, and so on. But did you know that all of God's promises are for every person?

That's right-when it comes to fulfilling promises, God does not discriminate. However, He does attach certain conditions to some promises, just as a parent might promise to take a child on an outing as a reward for a good report card.

Similarly, God requires us to approach Him in faith-the deeply held confidence that God is trustworthy and will always make good on His promises. God loves you; He wants you to relax in the knowledge of that love. He wants you to experience the peace of mind that comes from resting in His love and living without the torment of fear and doubt. Too many people cower at the mention of God's name, because they are afraid He is sitting up in heaven, just waiting for them to slip up so that He can punish them. I'm not saying that we never have to face consequences for our actions, but God doesn't delight in punishing us. Instead, He wants to bless us and prosper us. He is merciful and if we are able to receive His mercy, He frequently gives us blessing when actually we legally deserve punishment. Thankfully He sees our heart attitude and our faith in Jesus and not just our actions.

When we have confidence in God and His love and kindness, we can progress to living confidently and enjoying the life He wants for us. Note that I said confidence in God, not in ourselves. Usually, when people think of confidence, they think of self-confidence. Think of how many times you hear TV self-help gurus or athletes urging you to "believe in yourself!" I beg to differ. I want to make it clear, right from the start, that our confidence must be in Christ alone, not in ourselves, not in other people, not in the world or its systems. The Bible states that we are sufficient in Christ's sufficiency (Philippians 4:13), so we might also say that we are confident through Christ's confidence. Or another way to say it would be, "we have self-confidence only because He lives in us and it is His confidence that we draw on."

Imagine you're a member of a basketball team, captained by a point guard who is the most talented and most court-savvy player in the world. Not only can this athlete outplay anyone else on the court, she can also bring out the best in her teammates. You can enter each game with confidence, knowing that your team leader has the knowledge and skill to lead you to victory. Sure, you will need to do your part, fulfill your role on the team, but even if you have an off-game, your superstar will have you covered. She's got your back. And, as each game unfolds, you find that your leader's confidence is contagious. You can play boldly, because your captain inspires you.

So, if I say I am confident, which I frequently do, I don't mean that I am confident in myself or my abilities. I mean that I am confident in my leader, God, and the gifts, talents, and knowledge He has placed in me. I know that without Him I am nothing (John 15:5), but with Him, I can be a champion, because He brings out the best in me.

... we glory and pride ourselves in Jesus Christ, and put no confidence or dependence [on what we are] in the flesh and on outward privileges and physical advantages and external appearances. (PHILIPPIANS 3:3)

Are You Suffering from Confidence Deficiency?

Under-confidence is a condition; it might even be considered a sickness. And just like many other sicknesses, under-confidence is caused by a deficiency of one thing (confidence) and too much of another-in this case-fear. I refer to fear as an emotional virus because it begins as a thought in your head, then affects your emotions and behaviors-just like a flu virus might invade your body via a handshake or a sneeze and then make you feel miserable all over.

Fear is a dangerous virus, because a fearful person has no confidence and can never reach her potential in life. She won't step out of her comfort zone to do anything-especially something new or different. Fear is a cruel ruler, and its subjects live in constant torment.

It breaks my heart when I see people living fearfully, because without confidence, people can never know and experience true joy. The Holy Spirit of God Himself is grieved, because He has been sent into our lives to help us fulfill our God-ordained destinies. But you can't seek out your destiny when you've let fear slam and lock the door of your life. Instead, you cower behind the door, filled with self-hatred, condemnation, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and fear of others.

Many victims of fear end up being people-pleasers, prone to being controlled and manipulated by others. They give up the right to be themselves and usually spend their lives trying to be what they think they ought to be in someone else's eyes.

Sadly, when we try to be something or someone we are not intended to be, we stifle ourselves and God's power in us. When we have confidence, we can reach truly amazing heights; without confidence, even simple accomplishments are beyond our grasp.

Now, you might have read the preceding paragraph-about "amazing heights," and thought to yourself, Yeah, right, Joyce. I'm not able to do anything amazing. (And I'm scared of heights too.) Don't despair if you have thoughts like this. Throughout history, God has used ordinary people to do amazing, extraordinary things. Yet, all of them had to take a step of faith first. They had to confidently press forward into the unknown or unfamiliar before making any progress. They had to believe they could do what they were attempting to do. "Achieve" comes before "Believe" in the dictionary, but the order is switched in real life.

It's important to note that, in many cases, successful people have tried many times and failed before they ultimately succeeded. They not only had to begin with confidence, they had to remain confident when every circumstance seemed to shout at them, "Failure! Failure! Failure!"

Consider inventor Thomas Edison. He once said, "I speak without exaggeration when I say that I have constructed three thousand different theories in connection with the electric light, each one of them reasonable and apparently likely to be true. Yet in two cases only did my experiments prove the truth of my theory."

That means that Edison developed 2,998 failed theories en route to arriving at success. In fact, the true story of the light bulb is a long, tedious tale of repeated trial and error. Imagine how Edison must have felt as the failures piled up by the dozens, then the hundreds, then the thousands. Yet, through it all, he kept pressing forward. He believed in his bright idea, so he didn't lose his determination.

Just because ordinary people take steps to accomplish extraordinary things does not mean that they do not feel fear. I believe the Old Testament hero Esther felt fear when she was asked to leave her familiar, comfortable life and enter the king's harem so she could be used by God to save her nation. I believe Joshua felt fear when, after Moses died, he was given the job of taking the Israelites into the Promised Land. I know I had fear when God called me to quit my job and prepare for ministry. I still remember my knees shaking and my legs feeling so weak that I thought I would fall down. I remember the fear I felt then, but it frightens me more now to think of how my life would have turned out had I not faced the fear and pressed forward to do God's will. Fear does not mean you are a coward. It only means that you need to be willing to feel the fear and do what you need to do anyway.

If I would have let the fear I felt stop me, where would I be today? What would I be doing? Would I be happy and fulfilled? Would I be writing a book right now on being a confident woman-or would I be sitting at home, depressed and wondering why my life had been such a disappointment? I believe a lot of unhappy people are individuals who have let fear rule in their lives.

How about you, my dear reader? Are you doing what you really believe you should be doing at this stage in your life, or have you allowed fear and a lack of confidence to prevent you from stepping out into new things-or higher levels of old things? If you don't like your answer, then let me give you some good news: It is never too late to begin again! Don't spend one more day living a narrow life that has room for only you and your fears. Make a decision right now that you will learn to live boldly, aggressively, and confidently. Don't let fear rule you any longer.

It's important to note that you can't just sit around and wait for fear to go away. You will have to feel the fear and take action anyway. Or, as John Wayne put it, "Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway." In other words, courage is not the absence of fear; it is action in the presence of fear. Bold people do what they know they should do-not what they feel like doing.

Courage is not the absence of fear; it is action in the presence of fear. Bold people do what they know they should do-not what they feel like doing.

As I write these words, I feel very excited for you. I truly believe this book will be life-changing for many of you who read it. It may be a good reminder for some of you, but for others it will help you step out onto the path of your true life. The life that has been waiting for you since the beginning of time-and the one you may have been missing due to fear and intimidation. Satan is the master of intimidation, but once you realize that he is the one behind all your hesitation, you can take authority over him by simply placing confidence in Jesus Christ and stepping out boldly to be all you can be. God told Joshua, "Fear not, for I am with you." He is sending you that same message today: FEAR NOT! God is with you, and He will never leave you, nor forsake you.

Abraham was told, "God is with you in all that you do" (Genesis 21:22). That sounds like large living to me. Are you ready for a larger life, one that leaves you feeling satisfied and fulfilled? I believe you are, and I want to do everything I can to help you on your journey.

I know what it is like to live in fear. Fear can actually make you sick to your stomach. It can make you so tense and nervous that everyone around you notices that something is wrong; it's that evident in your facial expressions and your body language. What's more, just as confidence is contagious, so is the lack of self-confidence. When we possess no inner confidence, no one else has confidence in us either. Imagine a timid, cowering basketball player, standing in the corner of the court with her arms wrapped around herself. Is anyone going to pass her the ball? Is anybody going to call out plays to her?

When we think people are rejecting us, we feel hurt by them. The basketball player in the example above might think that her teammates hate her or have something against her. But, for fearful, under-confident people, the root of the problem is that they are rejecting themselves. They are rejecting the person God intended them to be.


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bridget3420 More than 1 year ago
At some point in time every person needs a confidence boost. Sometimes they feel less than adequate with their mind and others struggle with their physical appearance. In Joyce Meyer's book The Confident Woman she talks about the seven characteristics a woman with confidence has. I have battled with feelings of worthlessness and I don't think that I have ever been confident when it comes to my bodily appearance. This book does help you change your thinking about a few things which in the end can make your life a little simpler.
Trixcy More than 1 year ago
This book was enlightening for me. It help boost my confidence level. I must say this book has taught me a lot of things about the Christian Journey, which is KISS ( keep it simple stupid).One of my favorite lines in the book is "Don't let someones attitude determine how you act.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is by far the greatest book I have every read. Every women must read this book!! If you are feeling down about the things that are going on in your life, pick this book up. I guarantee you will have a hard time putting it down. This book uncovers the layers that we women hide under. God uses Joyce Meyer in a mightly way!fter reading this book I was set free. I can now walk in the imagine and likeness of Christ. And, my relationship with Him grows stronger and stronger, everyday
happy2be917 More than 1 year ago
All her books are awesome. I have not made it completely through this one yet. Evey book of hers that I have read has been a blessing to me and others. What woman doesn't need a plain word from God. Joyce always knows how to deliver a plain, relateable word and you cant go wrong with that.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was feeling depressed and rejected when I lost my job. This book motivated me to study God's word and to view myself as He does. Lots of examples of people who overcame hardships. And many inspiring bible passages
princesaKL More than 1 year ago
The Confident Woman, by Joyce Meyer, was an enjoyable read. Joyce is one of the world's leading practical Bible teachers and has written more than eighty inspirational books. She also has radio and television broadcasts around the world. Often society can put tremendous pressure on us which in return can leave us feeling insecure about ourselves, whether this be working in a competitive field, being the perfect parent, meeting those grades or trying to live up to the expectations of others, etc.. I think this book would be fantastic for all women young or old to read, even for women who may not feel they lack confidence. I certainly enjoyed reading every chapter throughout the book, and it kept my attention to the very end. This book is inspiring, uplifting and very practical for women in their everyday life. Joyce makes several generilizations which may apply to most people but not to everyone. However, for the most part, it is a very well written book. Joyce speaks from her own experiences in a way that certainly would help women who don't feel confident to have a sense of someone they can relate to and know they are not alone in this area. The author offers realistic and very practical advice regarding a wide range of things women face relating to confidence. I really like the fact Joyce encourages us to be positive about everything. For example, she wrote: 'Even if you fail it is better to have tried than to have regrets wishing you did.' This book encourages us to try something new. You will never know unless you try. It also makes reference to biblical scripture encouraging us to move forward in our faith regardless of how we feel. This book contains many lessons for us all. It is all about stepping out of your comfort zone, being bold. She challenges us to be the people God wants us to be.
JaneLC More than 1 year ago
~ "Confidence allows us to face life with boldness, openness, and honesty. It enables us to live wothout worry and to feel safe. It enables us to live authentically." This quote from THE CONFIDENT WOMAN touches on a point that is so essential to everyone, especially women. To thrive, in what is indisputably a man's world, each woman must be free of fear, free to discover and grow into the authentic person she was meant to be. Author Joyce Meyer gives women many sound, reasonable, and doable suggestions as to how to get there. While I don't agree with all of the author's spiritual conclusions, I do agree that God loves, appreciates, and wants women to find their rightful place in his arrangement. And that, without question, this place is one of dignity and happiness. You'll enjoy the author's voice, her enthusiasm, humor, and sometimes, her slap-in-the-face wake up calls. A complimentary review copy of this book was provided to me by The Hachette Book Group
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I really love Joyce, she's a great author and she always seems to know just what to say to help me. I just finished reading this book, and it is wonderful. She's knew what she's talking about, is always to the point, and her insight is wonderful. Truly helpful if you want to be more confident.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I picked this book up by accident. I saw this book as I was leaving the book-store purchsing another book 'the cover captured me'. I began to read the front cover and I was immediately drawn in, thefeore, I knew that I had to purchase this book. The following week I returned to the book-store to purchase this book and it has been one of my favorite books ever since.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I love Joyce! I watch her everyday on TV and have many of her books and cd's. I was very disappointed in this audiobook because it was not read by Joyce herself so it wasn't nearly as meaningful or effective for me. Next time I know to make sure the audiobook is read by the author before purchasing.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Excellent Book!! A must read for women who want a better life!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed reading this book. It was so inspiring to read about the strengths every woman can nurture. She has outdone herself! Every woman (and man) should read it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Whenever I am looking for a book to lift me up and help me down the path of life. I always find myself glued to one of Joyce Meyers well written books. She does an awesome job of getting God's word to us on a level we can relate too. I believe this book is one that can make a huge difference for any woman willing to pick it up, read it and apply the information in it, to their lives. Overall a wonderful book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book makes you feel so much better if you are down on yourself. She states in her book that women are more than just cooks, maids, etc but that you have value and that you are a precious being. I love all books by Joyce Meyer. I have recently created a group that does nothing but read Joyce Meyer books and discuss things regarding her and her ministry. Feel free to join anytime. We are currently reading this book 'The Confident Woman' You can find it at Yahoo groups. It's titled 'The Joyce Meyer Book Club'
Anonymous 10 months ago
One of Joyce Meyer Best Books!! Must have!!! It was wonderful!!!
laws on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
excellent book on self esteem. Wish I would read this sooner. I have been lacking confidence and this book helped me to see that I could change /that I can change . By having faith in God and trusting him all things are possible.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book gets right to the core of a lot of women's issues and insecurities. It's worth the read. I throughly enjoyed it!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Life changing.
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The material in this book can be helpful in dealing with everyday problems. It can offer some useful encouragement.
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