Young children can surprise us with tough questions. Tominey’s essential guide teaches us how to answer them and foster compassion along the way.
If you had to choose one word to describe the world you want children to grow up in, what would it be?
Safe? Understanding? Resilient? Compassionate?
As parents and caregivers of young children, we know what we want for our children, but not always how to get there.Many children today are stressed by academic demands, anxious about relationships at school, confused by messages they hear in the media, and overwhelmed by challenges at home.Young children look to the adults in their lives for everything. Sometimes we’re prepared... sometimes we’re not.
In this book, Shauna Tominey guides parents and caregivers through how to have conversations with young children about a range of topics-from what makes us who we are (e.g., race, gender) to tackling challenges (e.g., peer pressure, divorce, stress) to showing compassion (e.g., making friends, recognizing privilege, being a helper). Talking through these topics in an age-appropriate mannerrather than telling children they are too young to understandhelps children recognize how they feel and how they fit in with the world around them. This book provides sample conversations, discussion prompts, storybook recommendations, and family activities. Dr.Tominey's research-based strategies and practical advice creates dialogues that teach self-esteem, resilience, and empathy: the building blocks for a more compassionate world.
|Publisher:||Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||7.00(w) x 10.00(h) x 0.80(d)|
About the Author
Shauna Tominey, PhD, is an assistant professor of practice and parenting education specialist at Oregon State University. She lives in Corvallis, Oregon.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Creating compassionate kids: The importance of conversations 1
Taking children's feelings seriously during early childhood 3
The importance of conversations in early childhood 7
Millions of neurons, millions of words 8
Chapter II You are loved: Modeling compassionate parenting 14
You are loved 15
Your feelings help your parents know what you need 22
Your parents use words to teach you and guide you 26
You can express your feelings in different ways 34
Everyone is a learner 44
Making mistakes is part of learning 49
Chapter III You are your own person: Building self-awareness 75
You are special 75
Sex and gender 92
Your body 98
Abilities and disabilities 102
Sexual orientation 109
Your family is special 112
There are many different types of families 113
All families have beliefs, culture, and values 117
Chapter IV You are part of the world around you: Fostering resilience 138
You can talk to your family about anything 140
Love, relationships, and sex 140
Peer pressure 151
Safe and unsafe touches (abuse) 163
Substance use and abuse 169
Guns and violence 186
Chapter V You can be a helper: Promoting compassion 202
We should be kind to everyone, starting with our own family 204
Thinking about other people's feelings can help us get along 207
Having good manners is one way to show kindness and compassion 213
There are things you can do to be a good friend 216
Making amends means more than saying sorry 223
There are no bad kids, but some kids have more challenges than others 229
Privilege impacts our lives in different ways 235
We can each make a difference in our own way 244