Everything Is Negotiable: The 5 Tactics to Get What You Want in Life, Love, and Work

Everything Is Negotiable: The 5 Tactics to Get What You Want in Life, Love, and Work

by Meg Myers Morgan

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Surprising ways we limit ourselves and our happiness, and how to challenge the internalized wisdom and circular thinking that holds us back

As women, many of us are stuck in feedback loops about how to be successful and happy: striving to "have it all" at work and at home, letting ourselves be pressured into giving every part of our lives 100% until we're completely burnt-out, imagining only a strictly linear life path (college, job, marriage, kids), and accepting limitations without question. Yet the truth is, this book argues, most of the conventional wisdom about driving our life choices is total baloney.
In Everything Is Negotiable, Meg Myers Morgan deconstructs preconceived notions about adulthood, parenthood, and career paths that have us limiting ourselves. Instead of following that linear plan, for example, she urges readers to take action now for what we want--limitations be damned. With wit and verve, Morgan also tells us to forget trying to "have it all," as the cliche phrase goes--it'll never happen. And, Morgan argues, don't bother trying to give 100%--we simply can't give anything 100% attention, ever! Instead, this book teaches us to navigate life's necessary trade-offs free of the baggage of our own expectations.
Chock full of strategies for where and when to give our limited energy, what to demand from our careers, and how to make better choices, Everything Is Negotiable is for women ready to seize the lives they really want.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781580057905
Publisher: Basic Books
Publication date: 12/04/2018
Sold by: Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format: NOOK Book
Sales rank: 1,058,356
File size: 1 MB

About the Author

Dr. Meg Myers Morgan is an assistant professor at the University of Oklahoma. She administers the graduate programs in Public Administration and Nonprofit Management on the OU-Tulsa campus. She holds a PhD and an MPA from the University of Oklahoma, and a degree in English and Creative Writing from Drury University.

Morgan is the author of Harebrained: It Seemed Like a Good Idea at the Time. The self published book ranked in the Top 10 humorous books on Amazon, was awarded a gold medal in humor from the Independent Publishers Book Awards, and was recognized as a Foreword Reviews "Book of the Year." Her piece "Tabling the Discussion," about female behavior in the classroom, was a cover story for The Chronicle of Higher Education. Based on the themes in her writing, she gave a TED Talk, "Negotiating for Your Life", for TEDxOU in 2016.

Table of Contents

Introduction: The Initial Offer xv


Tactic 1 Don't Confuse Your Wants 3

Your wants are all yours 8

Don't control the wants of others, and don't let the wants of others control you 18

Rejecting your wants, and when your wants reject you 27

Your future wants don't have to justify your past ones 33

Your wants have a timeline, not a deadline 41


Tactic 2 Choose All Thai Apply 57

Sometimes the choice is made for you 60

Almost everything is a choice 70

This relationship is a choice 80

There is no one choice 88

Understand your choice cycle 93

Choosing means asking 107


Tactic 3 Own the Terms 123

Own your narrative 126

Find your own voice 137

Own your patch of soil 147

Be your own biggest fan 156

Own the fail 165


Tactic 4 Never Give Your All 181

Give a little over a lot 184

Don't give your critics too much attention 192

Give yourself a break 202

Give thought to your formation 209

Don't give more than you owe 219


Tactic 5 Get Out of Your Way 231

Get over perfect 234

Get focused 247

Take stock of what you've got 256

Getting to "yes" takes time 266

Go get what you want 273

Conclusion: The Final Offer 281

Acknowledgments 287

References 291

About the Author 297

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