"Jenny made me laugh so hard I feared for my safety! I think that's how she was able to get past my defenses and make me feel more okay about myself." -Allie Brosh, author of Hyperbole and a Half
"You'll laugh, wince, writhe in discomfort, cry, then laugh again. You might even feel the need to buy a raccoon. But the two things you'll never do is doubt Jenny's brilliance or her fearlessness when it comes to having honest discussions about mental illness, shame, and the power of human resilience. She's changing the conversation one rented sloth at a time." -Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times Bestseller Daring Greatly
For fans of David Sedaris, Tina Fey, and Mindy Kaling-the new book from Jenny Lawson, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller LET'S PRETEND THIS NEVER HAPPENED...
In LET'S PRETEND THIS NEVER HAPPENED, Jenny Lawson baffled readers with stories about growing up the daughter of a taxidermist. In her new book, FURIOUSLY HAPPY, Jenny explores her lifelong battle with mental illness. A hysterical, ridiculous book about crippling depression and anxiety? That sounds like a terrible idea. And terrible ideas are what Jenny does best.
According to Jenny: "Some people might think that being 'furiously happy' is just an excuse to be stupid and irresponsible and invite a herd of kangaroos over to your house without telling your husband first because you suspect he would say no since he's never particularly liked kangaroos. And that would be ridiculous because no one would invite a herd of kangaroos into their house. Two is the limit. I speak from personal experience. My husband says that none is the new limit. I say he should have been clearer about that before I rented all those kangaroos."
"Most of my favorite people are dangerously fucked-up but you'd never guess because we've learned to bare it so honestly that it becomes the new normal. Like John Hughes wrote in The Breakfast Club, 'We're all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it.' Except go back and cross out the word 'hiding.'"
Jenny's first book, LET'S PRETEND THIS NEVER HAPPENED, was ostensibly about family, but deep down it was about celebrating your own weirdness. FURIOUSLY HAPPY is a book about mental illness, but under the surface it's about embracing joy in fantastic and outrageous ways-and who doesn't need a bit more of that?
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About the Author
JENNY LAWSON, The Bloggess, is an award-winning humor writer known for her great candor in sharing her struggle with depression and mental illness. Her two memoirs, Let's Pretend This Never Happened and Furiously Happy, were #1 New York Times bestsellers.
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A Funny Book About Horrible Things
By Jenny Lawson
Flatiron BooksCopyright © 2015 Jenny Lawson
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Furiously Happy. Dangerously Sad.
"You're not crazy. STOP CALLING YOURSELF CRAZY," my mom says for the eleventy billionth time. "You're just sensitive. And ... a little ... odd."
"And fucked up enough to require an assload of meds," I add.
"That's not crazy," my mom says as she turns back to scrubbing the dishes. "You're not crazy and you need to stop saying you are. It makes you sound like a lunatic."
I laugh because this is a familiar argument. This is the same one we've had a million times before, and the same one we'll have a million times again, so I let it lie. Besides, she's technically right. I'm not technically crazy, but "crazy" is a much simpler way of labeling what I really am.
According to the many shrinks I've seen in the last two decades I am a high-functioning depressive with severe anxiety disorder, moderate clinical depression, and mild self-harm issues that stem from an impulse- control disorder. I have avoidant personality disorder (which is like social anxiety disorder on speed) and occasional depersonalization disorder (which makes me feel utterly detached from reality, but in less of a "this LSD is awesome" kind of a way and more of a "I wonder what my face is doing right now" and "It sure would be nice to feel emotions again" sort of thing). I have rheumatoid arthritis and autoimmune issues. And, sprinkled in like paprika over a mentally unbalanced deviled egg, are things like mild OCD and trichotillomania — the urge to pull one's hair out — which is always nice to end on, because whenever people hear the word "mania" they automatically back off and give you more room on crowded airplanes. Probably because you're not supposed to talk about having manias when you're on a crowded airplane. This is one of the reasons why my husband, Victor, hates to fly with me. The other reason is I often fly with taxidermied creatures as anxiety service animals. Basically we don't travel a lot together because he doesn't understand awesomeness.
"You're not a maniac," my mom says in an aggravated voice. "You just like to pull your hair. You even did it when you were little. It's just soothing to you. Like ... like petting a kitten."
"I like to pull my hair out," I clarify. "It's sort of different. That's why they call it a 'mania' and not 'kitten-petting disorder.' Which would honestly suck to have because then you'd end up with a bunch of semi-bald kittens who would hate you. My God, I hope I never get overly enthusiastic kitten-fur-pulling disorder."
My mother sighs deeply, but this is exactly why I love having these conversations with her. Because she gives me perspective. It's also why she hates having these conversations with me. Because I give her details.
"You are perfectly normal," my mom says, shaking her head as if even her body won't let her get away with this sort of lie.
I laugh as I tug involuntarily at my hair. "I have never been normal and I think we both know that."
My mom pauses for a moment, trying to think up another line of defense, but it's pretty hopeless.
* * *
I've always been naturally anxious, to ridiculous degrees. My earliest school memory is of a field trip to a hospital, when a doctor pulled out some blood samples and I immediately passed out right into a wall of (thankfully empty) bedpans. According to other kids present, a teacher said, "Ignore her. She just wants attention." Then my head started bleeding and the doctor cracked open an ammonia capsule under my nose, which is a lot like being punched in the face by an invisible fist of stink.
Honestly I didn't know why I'd passed out. My baseline of anxiety remained the same but my subconscious was apparently so terrified that it had decided that the safest place for me to be was fast asleep on a floor, surrounded by bedpans. Which sort of shows why my body is an idiot, because forced narcolepsy is pretty much the worst defense ever. It's like a human version of playing possum, which is only helpful if bears are trying to eat you, because apparently if you lie down in front of bears they're all, "What a badass. I attack her and she takes a catnap? I probably shouldn't fuck with her."
This would be the start of a long and ridiculous period of my life, which shrinks label "white coat syndrome." My family referred to it as "What-the-hell-is-wrong-with-Jenny syndrome." I think my family was more accurate in their assessment because passing out when you see doctors' coats is just damn ridiculous and more than slightly embarrassing, especially later when you have to say, "Sorry that I passed out on you. Apparently I'm afraid of coats." To make things even worse, when I pass out I tend to flail about on the floor and apparently I moan gutturally. "Like a Frankenstein," according to my mom, who has witnessed this on several occasions.
Other people might battle a subconscious fear of adversity, failure, or being stoned to death, but my hidden phobia makes me faint at the sight of outerwear. I've passed out once at the optometrist's, twice at the dentist's office, and two horrifying times at the gynecologist's. The nice thing about passing out at the gynecologist's, though, is that if you're already in the stirrups you don't have far to fall — unless of course you're like me, and you flail about wildly while you're moaning and unconscious. It's pretty much the worst way to pass out with someone in your vagina. It's like having a really unattractive orgasm that you're not even awake for. I always remind my gynecologist that I might rather loudly pass out during a Pap smear and then she usually grimly informs me that she didn't need me to remind her at all. "Probably," my sister says, "because most people don't make as much of a theatrical show about fainting."
The really bad part about passing out at the gynecologist's is that you occasionally regain consciousness with an unexpected speculum inside your vagina, which is essentially the third-worst way to wake up. (The second-worst way to wake up is at the gynecologist's without a speculum inside of you because the gynecologist took it out when you passed out and now you have to start all over again, which is why I always tell gynecologists that if I pass out when they're in my vagina they should just take that opportunity to get everything out of the way while I'm out.
The first-worst way to wake up is to find bears eating you because your body thought its safest defense was to sleep in front of bears. That "playing possum" bullshit almost never works. Not that I know, because I'd never pass out in front of bears, because that would be ridiculous. In fact I've actually been known to run at bears to get a good picture of them. Instead, I pass out in front of coats, which — according to my brain — are the things that you really need to be concerned around.)
One time I loudly lost consciousness at my veterinarian's office when he called my name. Apparently my subconscious freaked out when I saw blood on the vet's coat and then I abruptly passed out right on my cat. (That's not a euphemism.) I woke up shirtless in the lobby with a bunch of strangers and dogs looking down at me. Evidently when I started moaning the vet called an ambulance and when the EMTs arrived they claimed they couldn't find my heartbeat so they ripped open my shirt. Personally I think they just wanted a cheap thrill. I think the dogs looking down on me agreed, as they seemed slightly embarrassed for me after watching the whole spectacle unfold. But you really can't blame the dogs because, first of all, who can look away from a train wreck like that, and secondly, dogs have no concept of modesty.
"Waking up shirtless with a bunch of concerned dogs staring at your bra because you're afraid of coats is about the seventh-worst way to wake up," I mutter aloud to my mother.
"Hmm," my mom replies noncommittally, raising a single eyebrow. "Well, okay, maybe you're not normal normal," she says grudgingly, "but who wants to be normal? You're fine. You are perfectly fine. Better than normal even, because you're so aware of what's wrong with you that you can recognize it and ... sort of ... fix it."
I nod. She has a point, although the rest of the world might disagree with our definition of "fixing it."
When I was little I "fixed it" by hiding from the world in my empty toy box whenever my undiagnosed anxiety got too unbearable. In high school I fixed it by isolating myself from other people. In college I fixed it with eating disorders, controlling what I ate to compensate for the lack of control I felt with my emotions. Now, as an adult, I control it with medication and with shrink visits and with behavioral therapy. I control it by being painfully honest about just how crazy I am. I control it by allowing myself to hide in bathrooms and under tables during important events. And sometimes I control it by letting it control me, because I have no other choice.
Sometimes I'm unable to get out of bed for a week at a time. Anxiety attacks are still an uncomfortable and terrifying part of my life. But after my furiously happy epiphany, I've learned the importance of pushing through, knowing that one day soon I'll be happy again. (If this sentence seems confusing it's probably because you skipped over the author's note at the beginning like everyone else in the world does. Go back and read it because it's important and also because you might find money in there.)
This is why I sneak into other people's bathrooms in haunted hotels and once accepted a job as a political czar who reports directly to the stray cat that sleeps at city hall. I have staged live zombie apocalypse drills in crowded ballrooms and I've landed on aircraft carriers at sea. I once crowdfunded enough money to buy a taxidermied Pegasus. I am furiously happy. It's not a cure for mental illness ... it's a weapon, designed to counter it. It's a way to take back some of the joy that's robbed from you when you're crazy.
"Aaaaah! You're not crazy," my mom says again, waving a wet plate at me. "Stop saying you're crazy. People will think you're a lunatic."
And it's true. They will. I Google the word "lunatic" on my phone and read her one of the definitions.
Lunatic: (noun) Wildly or giddily foolish.
My mom pauses, stares at me, and finally sighs in resignation, recognizing way too much of me in that definition. "Huh," she says, shrugging thoughtfully as she turns back to the sink. "So maybe 'crazy' isn't so bad after all."
Sometimes crazy is just right.CHAPTER 2
I've Found a Kindred Soul and He Has a Very Healthy Coat
A few weeks ago I was at the pharmacy picking up my meds and I was staring into the drive-through window and thinking about how awesome it is that we live in a world where you can pick up drugs in a drive-through, and that's when I noticed something strange next to the pharmacist's register:
And I thought, "Well, that's ... odd. But maybe someone returned them because they were stale or something?" And then I thought it was even odder that someone could realize that dog biscuits had gone stale because dogs aren't usually very good at not eating cookies even if they're fairly shitty. I mean, dogs eat used diapers if you let them, so I'm pretty sure none of them are saying no to cookies. But then the pharmacist came back and while he was ringing me up he reached over and picked up a handful of broken dog biscuits ...
And then I thought, "Wait. Am I high right now? Is he high? Am I being tested? Should I say something?" But I didn't, because I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to accuse the man giving you drugs of eating dog food. And then I signed for the drugs and drove away and I thought to myself, "Is it possible that he accidentally ate the dog biscuits? Or maybe someone is always stealing his food at work so he decided to put his tasty human cookies (made for humans, not from humans) in a Milk-Bone box to keep them safe? Or maybe he just likes to entertain himself by seeing if people will tell him that he's eating dog food. Those would be good people, probably."
I'm not one of those people.
But then I spent all day thinking, "WHY THE DOG BISCUITS?" and so I went back today to ask, but the dog biscuits were gone and the dog-biscuit-eating guy was also gone and I thought, "Can I ask this pharmacist if the other pharmacist who eats dog food is around, because I need to know the story?" And the answer is "No. No, I can't." But I really want to know because I suspect that I would be great friends with this guy because anyone who would hide crackers in a dog-food box seems like someone I'd like to hang out with. Although, someone who just eats dog food for fun seems slightly more questionable. Except now I'm wondering if maybe Milk-Bones are really delicious and he's just a genius who's discovered really cheap cookies. Cookies that you don't have to call your judgmental vet about when your dog gets in the pantry and eats all of them. You still have to call the vet though when your cat has eaten a toy consisting of a tinkle bell and a feather and a poof ball all tied together with twine. That actually happened once and it was really the worst because the vet told me that I'd have to ply the cat with laxatives to make the toy pass easily through and that I'd need to inspect the poop to make sure the toy passed because otherwise they'd have to do open-cat surgery. And then it finally did start to pass, but just the first part with the tinkle bell, and the cat was freaked out because he was running away from the tinkle bell hanging out of his butthole and when I called the vet he said to definitely NOT pull on the twine because it could pull out his intestines, which would be the grossest piñata ever, and so I just ran after the cat with some scissors to cut off the tinkle bell (which, impressively, was still tinkling after seeing things no tinkle bell should ever see). Probably the cat was running away because of the tinkle bell and because I was chasing it with scissors screaming, "LET ME HELP YOU."
If I was good friends with that dog-food-eating pharmacist I would've called him to tell him all about the tinkle bell issue because he'd probably appreciate it, but I never found him again because I was worried that if I ever asked to see the dog-food-eating pharmacist the other pharmacists would stop giving me drugs.
This feels a bit discriminatory, but I can't explain exactly why.CHAPTER 3
My Phone Is More Fun to Hang Out with Than Me
When I wake up in the morning I often find messages left to me on my phone. Then I read the messages and I suspect that I'm being stalked by a madwoman. And I am. That madwoman is me. The calls are coming from inside the house.
Some of these notes are written while I'm waiting for my sleeping pills to kick in, but most are written at two a.m., when I'm convinced that I've come up with something brilliant that I'll forget if I don't jot it down immediately. Then in the morning I congratulate myself because I have forgotten what it was and am a little disappointed that the messages are less world-shattering and more just plain confusing. These missives from my brain are baffling, but I never delete them because it's nice to have a pen pal I don't have to write back to, and also because I can look at the strange notes and think, "Finally someone gets me."
These are a few of those notes:
"I'm not going to say I told you so" is pretty much the same thing as saying "I told you so." Except worse because you're saying "I told you so" and congratulating yourself for your restraint in not saying what you totally just said.
* * *
Are asparaguses just artichokes that haven't grown properly? Like they started smoking and got really skinny, like supermodels?
* * *
I bet marmalade was invented by the laziest person in the world.
* * *
Eating a peach is like eating a newborn baby's head. In that it's all soft and fuzzy. Not that peaches taste like babies. I don't eat babies. Or peaches, actually. Because they remind me of eating babies. Vicious circle, really.
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Table of Contents
A Series of Unfortunate Disclaimers
Note from the Author
Furiously Happy. Dangerously Sad.
I've Found a Kindred Soul and He Has a Very Healthy Coat
My Phone Is More Fun to Hang Out with Than Me
I Have a Sleep Disorder and It's Probably Going to Kill Me or Someone Else
How Many Carbs are in a Foot?
Pretend You're Good at It
George Washington's Dildo
I'm Not Psychotic. I Just Need to Get in Front of You in Line.
Why Would I Want to Do More When I'm Already Doing So Well at Nothing?
What I Say to My Shrink vs. What I Mean
LOOK AT THIS GIRAFFE
Skinterventions and Bangtox
It's Like Your Pants Are Bragging at Me
It's Hard to Tell Which of Us Is Mentally Ill
I Left My Heart in San Francisco. (But Replace "San Francisco" with "Near the Lemur House" and Replace "Heart" with a Sad Question Mark.)
Stock up on Snow Globes. The Zombie Apocalypse Is Coming.
Appendix: An Interview with the Author
I'm Turning into a Zombie One Organ at a Time
Cats Are Selfish Yawners and They're Totally Getting Away with It
Koalas Are Full of Chlamydia
The World Needs to Go on a Diet. Literally.
Crazy Like a Reverse Fox
An Essay on Parsley, Wasabi, Cream Cheese, and Soup
And Then I Got Three Dead Cats in the Mail
Things I May Have Accidentally Said During Uncomfortable Silences
My Skeleton Is Potaterrific
It's Called "Catouflage"
We're Better Than Galileo. Because He's Dead.
Things My Father Taught Me
I'm Going to Die. Eventually.
And This Is Why I Prefer to Cut My Own Hair
It's All in How You Look at It (The Book of Nelda)
Well at Least Your Nipples Are Covered
Death by Swans Is Not as Glamorous as You'd Expect
The Big Quiz
That Baby Was Delicious
These Cookies Know Nothing of My Work
It Might Be Easier. But It Wouldn't Be Better.
Epilogue: Deep in the Trenches
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I laughed through this whole book and nearly hurt myself doing so. As someone who also has panic attacks and anxiety disorders, it is great to see the dark humor and to know that I am not alone. Thank you to Jenny Lawson for her insights.
I listened to the audio and enjoyed it immensely! You come to appreciate the quirks of the individual and can't believe some of the antics she gets into. She does touch on the dark side of mental illness, but blends it in well and writes with understanding.
I looked forward to this book for months prior to its release, I had high hopes for it. Her previous novel was probably the funniest I have ever read and I became an avid reader of her blog as well. This book just didn't feel as genuine as the previous one did, I skimmed through several chapters because they felt forced. Jenny Lawson is amazingly talented, I will continue to read her blog and will read her next effot if she releases another but this one was a let down.
Laughter through tears throughout the book. I highlighted and bookmarked more pages than any other book I have on my Nook. Take your time in reading it. Share it with someone who needs to know they are not alone.
@Anonymous, I'm a little biased since I've been following her blog for years, but yes, it's good. Like the description says, it's a little odd to write a book about depression and anxiety, but the book is about overcoming through humor--and maybe doing some nutty things once in awhile. I love her writing style, and her sense of humor is wonderfully deadpan. I dare you to get through the first ten pages without laughing. If you're looking for a clinical description of how to manage mental illness, this isn't it. A funny, down-to-earth book about having illness and living well anyway? Go for it.
Jenny is hilarious. She makes me feel like im normal.
Great book just older for olde eyes. There is a lot of cursing. You must also keep in mind that this is about a husband and a wife. I would say 13+. This was a funny book, and it taugh me to enjoy th little things.
Jenny takes the LOLs to a whole new level of absurdity.
I've struggled with severe clinical depression for over half my life. This book helped me form a new outlook on my illness and, in turn, has genuinely improved my quality of life. I still get horrible bouts of depression, but I have learned to appreciate the good times so much more. As a result, my downward spirals are a little more manageable. This book had me laughing until my sides hurt and that in itself is a victory. Jenny Lawson, if you see this by chance, your book means the world to me and I thank you for writing this from the bottom of my heart.
I am so Furiously Happy that i listened to the audio book as well as followed along on my ereader. I had the best of both worlds. 1. I was able to hear the author in her own voice reading the book, so much more fun to enjoy. 2. Was able to see the pictures that were posted i would have truly missed that.
Incredible, hilarious, irreverent, messed up-what a book... It's hard to put down my feelings about this book. Except, for anyone who lives with anxiety and depression, OR around people with those conditions, this book lets you laugh about things you never thought possible, which is incredibly healing. Jenny Lawson has a witty and winning way about speaking about dark and awful things--like crippling anxiety and suicidal thoughts. If you’d like perspective on what it’s like to live with anxiety and depression OR you just need to feel a little crazy (or sane by comparison), give this book a read. You won’t be able to put it down. It is of note that there is a LOT of bad language in this book. If that bothers you, move along. This isn't the book for you.
This is one of the most exhausting books I’ve ever read. Jenny Lawson is, by no means, not NOT hilarious, and I found myself laughing out loud during quite a bit of the book (mainly toward the beginning). It’s just so ridiculous. A lot of times I felt like I was reading a modern version of Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man in that the stream of consciousness never ends and every sentence takes a bit of unpacking. But as much as I enjoyed her humor and liked seeing how scattered and random a fellow human’s thoughts can be (because mine can be nuts), her writings was exhausting to read. Reading this book was like being around someone who is ON and cracking jokes allllll the time. There was no reprieve and most of her anecdotes and thoughts are just SO out there. Almost to the point where it’s hard to believe that they’re not fabricated. I KNOW they’re not and I appreciate how honest she is about her brain, but it wasn’t as enjoyable to read as I thought. But it was still a riot at times and I’m glad I read it.
Thank you for making me feel more normal in not being normal
My abs hurt so bad from laughing and I cried a few times to things I related to on a souls level. Just so ridiculous and funny through her mental illness. Do not read this in public unless you really want to look like a look guffawing into your lunch.
The wit and honesty in this book had me laughing out loud. On a crowded airplane. My husband started reading over my shoulder - probably more so I would stop reading him bits and pieces out loud.
Life is crazy, hers is crazier, funnier, and more honest than most. A great read.
This book made my life feel so much like I can deal with whatever comes. I feel like let's do this!!! (And it needs three exclamation marks!)
Absolutely the best read in a long time!
Great book!! This was my first time reading anything by Jenny Lawson and I am now a fan and want to read everything she has written.
Jenny has a way of making one who deals with mental illness feel almost too normal. This book was incredibly comforting and exceedingly entertaining at the same time. I'm very much looking forward to reading more of her work and I will definitely be checking out her blog!
Cracked me up! Loved this book and will definitely get her other books after reading this.