Community is God’s idea. Only in community can we know and be known, love and be loved, celebrate others and be celebrated by them. And only through close, transparent relationships can we be transformed as individuals.Groups invites you to enjoy the rewardsand embrace the risksof community. Step by step, this study will challenge and encourage you to explore the amazing potential for growth found in authentic relationships. You’ll study the true nature of friendship. The power of paying attention. The path to intimacy. The encouragement of being for one another. You’ll learn what it means to live out these and other simple but vital truths for being all you are, giving all you’ve got, and receiving all you need as a member of God’s dynamic community, the church.Leader’s guide included!Groups group sessions are:This Is a Friendship Love Pays Attention Knowing and Being Known When Community Breaks Down Forgiveness Building a Passionately Inclusive Church Being "For" One Another
About the Author
John Ortberg is the senior pastor of Menlo Park Presbyterian Church (MPPC) in the San Francisco Bay Area. His bestselling books include Soul Keeping, Who Is This Man?, and If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get out of the Boat. John teaches around the world at conferences and churches, writes articles for Christianity Today and Leadership Journal, and is on the board of the Dallas Willard Center and Fuller Seminary. He has preached sermons on Abraham Lincoln, The LEGO Movie, and The Gospel According to Les Miserables. John and his wife Nancy enjoy spending time with their three adult children, dog Baxter, and surfing the Pacific. You can follow John on twitter @johnortberg or check out the latest news/blogs on his website at www.johnortberg.com.
Judson Poling is coauthor of the Walking with God series and general editor of The Journey: A Study Bible for Spiritual Seekers.
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This Is a Friendship
Reading adapted from a message by Bill Hybels
There is a great story that dates back to the early 1960s when Vince Lombardi took over the reins of the Green Bay Packers. Most likely you've heard it before. It's become legendary. The Packer franchise had been losing for almost ten straight years. They were at the bottom of the standings, and morale was sagging.
Enter Vince Lombardi as the new coach. He is charged with the challenge of turning this franchise around, and he's all pumped up about it. He began leading practices, inspiring, training, motivating. But at one point in a practice, he just got so frustrated with what was going on with the players that he blew the whistle.
'Everybody stop and gather around,' he said. Then he knelt down, picked up the pigskin, and said, 'Let's start at the beginning. This is a football. These are the yard markers. I'm the coach. You are the players.' He went on, in the most elementary of ways, to explain the basics of football.
Every once in a while, we all need a breathtakingly basic talk about something--a 'this is a football' talk or, in this case, a 'this is a friendship' talk.
The Right Idea
The Bible says that friendship--community--is one of the richest experiences you can have in life. It makes your heart bigger. It helps keep you steady in a storm. It ends your aloneness. It is key to personal transformation. God wired us up to know and be known, to love and be loved, to serve and be served, to celebrate and be celebrated. If community is so wonderful, how, in painstakingly basic terms, do you move from where you are now into deep relating patterns that would fit the definition of this thing called community?
You have to start by making sure that you have the right idea about the nature of friendship. Do you want to wreck the possibility of a relationship? Then go into it with the idea that there's someone out there just sitting on a park bench waiting to nurture you, affirm you, comfort you, envelop you with round-the-clock care--and all you have to do is show up with 150 pounds of need. If that's the expectation you are bringing into friendship, you'll probably find potential friends making themselves curiously scarce.
The right idea of friendship involves the mutual exchange of knowledge, kindness, service, and celebration. It is a growing commitment among peers to seek the well-being of each other. That very radical concept is the central message of Philippians 2:1--11. The core of biblical friendship is seeking the interest of the person you have befriended. It is the joyful sublimation of your own agenda once in a while for the sheer pleasure of meeting a need or bringing a smile to the face of a friend. It is the consistent resistance of the urge to be independent and self-preoccupied.
Is it self-examination time? How much do you bring to the relationships you're building? How much do you expect to receive? What is your self-preoccupation factor? If you are even five or ten percent off from a balanced view of friendship, you'll probably find your relationships aren't working all that well.
The 'Want To' Factor
The next step in moving from aloneness to community is to face a sobering reality about the friendship-building process. Selecting and building friendships is an inexact and often lengthy, frustrating endeavor. It requires energy, risk, and, quite possibly, hurt. That is the plain truth.
When the Bible says that certain friends bring words that are comparable to silver and gold, it is certainly underscoring that friends are valuable. They have worth. But in addition to this, the friendship-development process itself might be compared to panning for silver and gold. You've got to work at it. Sometimes when you are mining for silver or gold, you think you have found it and you get all excited about it only to find out it's 'fool's gold.' Then you're let down and hurt.
There is a price to be paid up front for the eventual discovery of the mother lode--this thing called community. We would prefer a drive-up window. We would much rather pull up to the deep friendship window and say, 'I want two, with change back from my dollar.' Most of the time life doesn't work that way.
Community building is not easy. Very seldom can you just get plunked into a premade group and immediately experience community without some awkwardness, some trial and error. There has to be an internal 'want to' factor that is strong enough to be able to push you through the false starts and stops that are going to happen as you build community.
Moving toward Authenticity
The next challenge you'll face in your quest for community is to move beyond the level of superficiality. When you start developing a relationship, you generally start out with conversations that are a bit shallow. And that is as it should be. Trust has to be built. The basic knowledge-base concerning one another must develop. But if you stay stuck at the superficial level--where all you're talking about is the weather, the stock market, and what movie you rented last weekend--you will probably start to say, 'I was created for more than this.'
Most of us get tired of surface relationships and wish we could move on. But how? The single best tool I have discovered to move relationships beyond the level of yawning superficiality is the asking of a carefully thought-out question and the urging of an honest, sincere answer.
What question do we ask almost everybody whenever we see them? 'How are you doing?' The standard answers usually are, 'Fine,' 'Good,' or 'Not bad.'
What if you asked the question this way, 'How are you doing, really?' 'How are you doing, really--because I have a few moments and would love to listen to whatever it is that you'd like to talk about. How are things at work, really? How are things at home, really?'
Table of Contents
Pursuing Spiritual Transformation
Ten Core Values for Spiritual Formation
Groups: The Life-Giving Power of Community session one
This Is a Friendship session two
Love Pays Attention session three
Knowing and Being Known session four
When Community Breaks Down session five
Forgiveness session six
Building a Passionately Inclusive Church session seven
Being “For” One Another
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