Overcoming Passive-Aggression: How to Stop Hidden Anger from Spoiling Your Relationships, Career and Happiness

Overcoming Passive-Aggression: How to Stop Hidden Anger from Spoiling Your Relationships, Career and Happiness

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In Overcoming Passive-Aggression, Dr. Tim Murphy and Loriann Hoff Oberlin provide an in-depth look at a topic we've all faced but haven't always recognized: Hidden anger. When people don't express their views and feel compelled to conceal their true beliefs and emotions, behaving in ways that don't match what they honestly think, there can be serious physical and psychological results for everyone involved. For the first time, Murphy and Oberlin offer a clear definition of passive-aggression and show readers not only how to end the behavior, but also how to avoid falling victim to other people's hidden anger. In clear, compassionate language, they cover everything from the childhood origins of the condition to the devastating effect it has on work and personal relationships to the latest research on the subject, and offer practical, proven strategies for the angry person as well as the individual who finds himself the target of someone else's passive-aggression.

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ISBN-13: 9781567318623
Publisher: MJF Books
Publication date: 11/30/2007
Pages: 256
Product dimensions: 5.70(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.00(d)

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Overcoming Passive-Aggression: How to Stop Hidden Anger from Spoiling Your Relationships, Career and Happiness 4.2 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 14 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
While I've seen other authors on TV and even read other books on how difficult folks act and talk to one another, this book gives better advice, in my opinion. I really like the first few chapters because it clearly showed me why people get to be manipulative, sarcastic, and angry. And it fits cause I've known angry people to toss out nasty remarks just to 'get at' someone else, and they do have some health problems just like the ones listed in this book. Best for me, I learned by reading how this is implanted, how to react. I'd never guess some of the strategies, but they fit too when you think about not feeding the circle of anger. If you deal with manipulators, read this book!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Easy to read. Great book - I liked the examples of everyday 'folks' who deny, manipulate, weasel, or push anger & blame onto others. A must read for every parent (great section of BAD things we teach our kids to deal with anger & how to say no without further repercussions.)! A must read for couples & co-workers of angry folks (or pessimistic)... The only thing I DIDN'T like is that the book doesn't give you ways to let your anger go just simply to 'let it go'...a bit of advice in that area would've been appreciated. Overall, buy it & read it! I'm on reading it for the 2nd time in less than a month of starting it...90% of the book was written about me, I swear...Unbelievable read!
caribird More than 1 year ago
Some of the passages have really helped me see this problem clearly!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
For those of us who can't afford expensive psychiatric guidence in understanding how some of our behaviors may present serious problems in achieving "the good life" this book is very helpful in understanding what and how we must change those behaviors.
Guest More than 1 year ago
At last, a book primarily meant to tell the layperson all about passive-aggressive men and women. Overcoming Passive-Aggression helps passive-aggressives deal with their hidden anger and offers their targets ways to cope and manage. Murphy and Oberlin cite revealing and instructive case examples illustrating hidden anger in different contexts, and they discuss the core interactive processes that will surely bring forth ¿so that¿s it¿ responses of recognition and pleasant surprise in their readers. Martin Kantor, Author of Passive-Aggression: A Guide for the Therapist, the Patient and the Victim
the_hag on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
This is a book I would NOT put into my personal library¿I didn¿t learn a whole lot more about passive-aggressive behavior than I knew going into the reading. There were relatively few ¿examples¿ in this book¿and for this type of book and this guy being a therapist (and congressman¿he does beat us over the head with this fact throughout the book and it was more than a little annoying), I would have expected far more ¿stories¿ or case studies¿and they just aren¿t here. This leaves the book a very dry and relatively uninteresting read, as he actually deals very little with actual passive-aggressive behavior and goes off at length on nearly ever other type of disorder that can be associated with PA behavior. I might recommend it to someone totally unfamiliar with PA-ness¿but for me, this book left much to be desired. Additionally, the suggestions (beyond seek out a therapist/counselor, were excessively vague (another area where full examples to illustrate the author¿s point would have been extremely helpful). I rate it a C and hope that I can pull some useful additional reading from the notes.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Would it be passive aggressive to anonymously send a copy of this book to my passive aggressive coworker???
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I bought this book partially based on the good reviews, but was disappointed. I was looking for more detailed examples and advice regarding personal relationships, but it is more general and more about professional relationships. Not really helpful to me.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was a great book to read if you are trying to overcome your own passive agression, and also to help deal with people who are passive agressive. This helps with any kind of situation, be it the work place, or relationships. I would highly recommend this book.