Shepherding a Child's Heart / Edition 2 available in Paperback
Shepherding A Child's Heart is about how to speak to the heart of your child. The things you child does and says flow from the heart. Luke 6:45 puts it this way, "...out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks." (NIV) Written for parents with children of any age, this insightful book provides perspectives and procedures for shepherding your child's heart into the paths of life.
|Publisher:||Shepherd Press, Incorporated|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.50(d)|
Table of Contents
|The Centrality of the Gospel||xix|
|Internalization of the Gospel||xx|
|Mutuality as People under God||xxi|
|Part 1||Foundations for Biblical Childrearing|
|1||Getting to the Heart of Behavior||3|
|2||Your Child's Development: Shaping Influences||9|
|Mistakes in Understanding Shaping Influences||15|
|3||Your Child's Development: Godward Orientation||19|
|Implications for Childrearing||23|
|The Importance of Godward Orientation||24|
|4||You're in Charge||28|
|Confusion about Authority||28|
|Called to Be in Charge||29|
|Called to Obedience||31|
|5||Examining Your Goals||41|
|The Biblical Warning Against Cultural Influence||47|
|6||Reworking Your Goals||51|
|Rethinking Unbiblical Goals||51|
|7||Discarding Unbiblical Methods||60|
|Evaluating Unbiblical Methods||68|
|8||Embracing Biblical Methods: Communication||73|
|Communication is Dialogue, Not Monologue||75|
|Focus on Understanding||76|
|9||Embracing Biblical Methods: Types of Communication||83|
|Types of Communication||84|
|10||Embracing Biblical Methods: A Life of Communication||93|
|A Life of Communication||93|
|Shepherding the Heart||94|
|Counting the Cost||94|
|Counting the Blessings of Paying the Cost||96|
|Is It Worth the Cost?||100|
|11||Embracing Biblical Methods: The Rod||103|
|The Rationale Behind the Rod||104|
|What is the Rod?||108|
|Distortions of the Rod||110|
|Common Objections to the Rod||112|
|The Fruit of the Rod||114|
|The Best of Both||116|
|12||Embracing Biblical Methods: Appeal to the Conscience||118|
|Appealing to the Conscience||118|
|Correcting with A Central Focus on Redemption||123|
|13||Shepherding the Heart Summarized||126|
|Part 2||Shepherding Through the Stages of Childhood|
|14||Infancy to Childhood: Training Objectives||131|
|Circle of Blessing||135|
|Call for Consistency||139|
|Process of Appeal||140|
|The Importance of Example||142|
|Shepherding Your Children in Godly Attitudes||143|
|Benefits of Learning to be Under Authority||144|
|Save Time--Do It Right||145|
|15||Infancy to Childhood: Training Procedures||147|
|The "When" of Spanking||149|
|The "How" of Spanking||150|
|The "Why" of Spanking||153|
|Frequently Asked Questions||154|
|16||Childhood: Training Objectives||162|
|Three-Pronged Tool of Diagnosis||166|
|17||Childhood: Training Procedures||172|
|Addressing the Heart||173|
|Appealing to the Conscience||174|
|Interpreting Behavior in Character Terms||181|
|A Long-Term Vision||182|
|18||Teenagers: Training Objectives||184|
|Signs of the Times||185|
|Three Foundations for Life||187|
|19||Teenagers: Training Procedures||198|
|Internalization of the Gospel||198|
|Shepherding the Internalization of the Gospel||200|
|Developing A Shepherding Relationship with Teens||201|
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Shepherding a Child's Heart based on 0 ratings. 28 reviews.
Wow, this book was awesome. Out of all the children's hand books I've read this was definitely the best and most convicting. So often as parents we deal with our children on every level: emotional, physical, but some how we forget about the most important level SPIRITUAL. It is always my desire to lead my children to the Lord but somehow I forget that area and jump straight to punishment for bad behavior. This book is an answer to prayer on how to lead my child to the Lord in every aspect of our family life. Here are some excerpts I found to be the essence of what the message is in this book. 'Sadly, many parents have not thought through methodology. They just get mad and yell. When they have 'had it up there,' they threaten, holler, hit there kids and grow increasingly frustrated.'- page 62 'Biblical discipline addresses behavior through addressing the heart. Remember, the heart determines behavior.'... 'If you only try to change behavior you are missing the real issue-the heart' -page 68 I consider myself to be doing a great job at raising my children to not conform to world and in the way of the Lord, but after I read this book I was guilty of doing so many things wrong that I was glad I read this book now while my children are still toddlers. This book doesn't claim to have all the answers but it causes you to look into your own heart thereby affecting your reactions in dealing with your child's heart. Happy reading!!
I can not recommend this book enough! It is amazing! My husband and I felt so out of control with our child until we read this book. We knew spanking was ordained by God, but did not know how to implement it in a Godly manner. Now we have begun a system of discipline that has turned our relationship with our child around! Surrounded by love and prayer and punishment when necessary, out of love only, has worked miracles for our little one!
This is one of the best books on parenting I've ever read. It goes beyond simple pop-pyschology and behavior modification to deal with character--both the child's and the parent's!
Absolutely the best book on childrearing. Look no further, this is it! Stop wasting your time on other books, this book gets to the 'heart' of the matter in a very non-threatening, and non-intimidating way. You will not be made to feel guilty for past actions, but only encouraged for the present and future!
If I could place a glaring warning banner across this book I would and I certainly wouldn't give it even one star; however that was not an option . In the hands of young parents seeking to rear children this book terrifies me. This was the way many of us 50, 60 and 70 year olds were raised and we've spent years trying to rid ourselves of the psychological damage. We've learned better how to rear children and when we learn better we ought to do better. Yes, we must discipline our children , but hitting a child is abuse no matter what this book says. I wonder how Mr. Tripp and Mr. Powlison children turned out? Be extremely careful who you allow to influence you and your parenting. I suggest reading Positive Parenting books by Jane Nelsen .
This book is the best book I have read on parenting children in a Christian home. It is biblically based with lots of practical and Godly wisdom. It definitely goes against what our culture tries to tell us to do. We have three children and have seen much fruit in parenting in the way set forth in this book. God is faithful to his promises. I highly recommend you read this book, too. I am on my fifth time through just to be constantly reminding myself of how to be the parent God wants me to be. He discusses addressing the heart of a child rather than just his behavior, how when children sin, they are sinning against God and not the parent, what our goals should be as Godly parents, how to discipline children at different age levels, discusses different parenting techniques and why they are or are not Godly, and so much more. It is like a fire hose in the mouth. Plus, he gives many examples, which I love. Read it and join us in trying to raise kids who will make a difference for Jesus Christ.
I'm not sure how to rate this book. Parts of his parenting philosophy I readily accepted, parts I liked, and parts I completely disagreed with. The book is a parenting guide on discipline, but the author is determined to ground all of his ideas in a Biblical perspective. I fully am in accord with that decision. It was his interpretation of the Bible passages he used that I often did not accept.The overall premise is that parents are assigned by God to shepherd their children in a life of faith. We have authority because God has granted us that position as His agents for leading our children to him. I found that to be a new perspective on my parenting, and it resonated as truth with me. Furthermore, if our long term goal is seeing our children enter into a saved relationship with Jesus, then we need to be concerned with not just their external behaviors, but with the state of their heart that prompts those behaviors. That is the real goal of discipline. Again, I was in accord with these ideas. In order to reach a child's heart, Tripp writes that discipline should be balanced by two approaches, communication and the rod of correction.He spends a fair amount of time on the communication component. In his experience, if a parent does not build a relationship with a child that is build on mutual trust and open dialogue, than any disciplinary action will be ineffective in the long run. Next, the author addresses using the rod, which in his beliefs is spanking, plain and simple. He explains that he knows spanking is in disgrace in our current culture, and that he may garner a lot of criticism for his advocacy of spanking, but he holds his ground. I admire him for adhering to his principles.My admiration does not lead me to agree with him, though.
Tedd Tripp has gone straight to the heart, literally, of biblical parenting. The importance of the principles in this book cannot be overstated.
Many parents search for encouragement in the task of child raising and this book is one which can do that. Though I personally wouldn't handle some of the situations which he uses as illustrations in the same way he did, Mr. Tripp has several thought-provoking and challenging suggestions worth consideration and discussion.
This is the best parenting book i have ever read. It is NOT a guide how to Abuse your child. some comments I read here....gives me a clear indication that folks who wrote these comments, clearly have not read the entire book. So for everyone who wants to read the book but is looking at comments first, please don't read into it. Great methodology book.
I read this book when my son was about a year and was thoroughly disappointed in what I read. I appreciate the title of the book - it is exactly what I hope to do with my son... shepherd his heart. However, the techniques described in this book seem harsh and manipulative. The author even describes how he spanked his teenage son! This is NOT the kind of parenting I consider effective or even appropriate. If we want to get to the heart of the matter with our children, more complex methods are far more effective. This book was a big thumbs-down for me. I've read bits and pieces of Parenting is Heart Work and Spiritual Parenting and like these books much more.
This book is really based on the Bible. Those, who doesn't agree with the biblical principals won't even understand the book. Bible says many times that after the "Adam & Eve fall" every humanbeing is sinful even before they are born. So God wants every parent to shepered their children from the very birth, using his methods, which are the only methods that would work, because human nature love to sin and nothing else can help, except the biblical methods, which are the GOD'S WORD.
CÓMO PASTOREAR EL CORAZÓN DE SU HIJO es acerca de cómo hablarle al corazón de su hijo. Las cosas que su hijo dice y hace fluyen del corazón. Lucas 6:45 lo pone así: ¿... de la abundancia del corazón habla la boca¿. Escrito para padres con hijos de cualquier edad, este libro iluminador provee perspectivas y procedimientos para pastorear el corazón de su hijo por las etapas de la vida.
This book is absolutely wonderfull. It has offered termendous guidence for us as young parents,seeking to raise God centered children. Enjoy
Tripp brings years of experience as a parent, pastor, and school administrator to dealing with what can be a frustrating arena for Christian parents. He moves the issue of discipline away from using outcome-oriented strategies (focusing on behavior) to dealing with the heart issues that prompt our children's behavior. This is probably the best book on parenting that I have read, but please be aware that Tripp is writing from a biblically based perspective with the assumption that his audience shares those beliefs.
Feed is a book that makes you think a lot about how things could be in the future. The way the earth is in the book, being all factory made is something that I found unimaginable, for instance reading about clouds and seeing the TM right beside it was something different for me. The relationship between Violet and Titus shows a first love and loss for both and how that effects them both differently. Over all though, this book was well written and shows a different way to think about the future of this planet and the people and objects on it.
This was one of the worst 'Christian' parenting books I've ever read. How do you get to the heart of your child when you spank for every single little infraction? I am a born again Christian who wants to raise my children to love the Lord, but I cannot see how this book would help them to trust me, or to trust the Lord. If I was spanked for every time I disobeyed, or didn't obey quickly enough or without hesitation or complaint, I sure would hate my parents and I would think God was a punishing, mean God. Wait...I was spanked a lot as a child, and I did hate my parents and I WAS afraid of God!! This book is in the genre of the Ezzo books which are also scripture-twisting, legalistic, and damaging. OR the 'To Train up a Child' books which are even more so. If you would like to read a good Christian parenting book that shows you how to raise wonderful children who love the Lord and trust you, then read anything by Dr. William Sears. He truly understands the 'rod' of the Bible and doesn't twist scripture to his agenda across. Terrible book, almost child abuse (who would spank a 6 month old who squirms during a diaper change, as this book says to do?!), or spank your child AGAIN if they are 'not sweet enough' after you have just spanked them (That is a direct quote from the book)???
It is a horrendous irresponsibility to use misleading lines from a book that was written a long time ago as a justification to ignore what we today know, through science and psychology, destructively harms and hurts children and causes great suffering, humiliation and long term damage to their souls, their dignity, their self- confidence, their trust in life and love. If people later don't want to realize that they were abused as children, they write irresponsible books that recommend the same cruelty that was inflicted upon them, when they were children, and the same wrong and terrible attitudes they had to endure as children, as a good thing. They not only use the bible in malicious ways to endorse child abuse, but they also advise parents to commit this abuse in the secrecy of their home so that others cannot interfere. What cowardly, infamous, deceptive non-values does this reveal. Alice Miller's book 'For Your Own Good' demonstrates clearly and movingly the consequences of irresponsible, abusive parenting. How can we live in the 21st century and still allow children to be treated in the ways they have been abused by for centuries? How can we allow that the darkest concepts of violence and inhumanity can still be excused with lies as benefiting children?