Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story

Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story

by Jacob Tobia

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"Transformative . . . If Tobia aspires to the ranks of comic memoirists like David Sedaris and Mindy Kaling, Sissy succeeds." --New York Times Book Review

A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above.

"Sensational."--Tyler Oakley
"Jacob Tobia is a force." --Good Morning America
"A necessary voice." --TIME
"Honest, funny, and poignant." --Bustle
"A valuable dispatch from a new generation of queer activists and artists." --Washington Post

From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!"

Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay," "trans," "nonbinary," and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world--one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism.

From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender--both other people's and your own--the same way again.

*An and Best of March Pick*
*A Los Angeles Times Bestseller*

*Named a Most Anticipated Book by HelloGiggles, PopSugar, SheReads, A.V. Club,, The Daily Utah Chronicle, Read It Forward, Ms. Magazine, and Eligible*

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780735218833
Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date: 03/05/2019
Sold by: Penguin Group
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 336
Sales rank: 68,481
File size: 4 MB

About the Author

Jacob Tobia (@JacobTobia) is a gender nonconforming writer, producer, and performer based in Los Angeles. A member of both the Forbes "30 Under 30" and the "OUT 100," Jacob's writing and advocacy have been featured by MSNBC, The New York Times, TIME, The Guardian, and Teen Vogue, among others. A Point Foundation Scholar, Truman Scholar, and member of the Biden Foundation's Advisory Council for Advancing LGBTQ Equality, Jacob has worn high heels in the White House twice.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

A Quick Manifesto 11

Part I Kiddo

Chapter 1 The Girls Next Door 23

Chapter 2 Nerds and Wizards and Jesus, Oh My! 50

Chapter 3 Inharmonious Hormones 66

Part II Teenage Dreams

Chapter 4 A Very Dramatic (First) Coming Out 101

Chapter 5 In My Own Two Shoes, On My Own Two Feet 134

Part III Big Queen on Campus

Chapter 6 A Gothic Wonderland, a Major Letdown 177

Chapter 7 Beloved Token 213

Chapter 8 Sissy, Femme, Queer, and Proud 252

Chapter 9 Dear Mom and Dad 300

Epilogue Notes to Self 307

Acknowledgments 317

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Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
Anonymous 9 days ago
Sissy offers an honest, comic, and unapologetic take on Jacob Tobia's trans experience. Jacob makes clear their conscious intention to share a trans narrative that doesn’t necessarily fit the structure that cisgender people may have grown comfortable with. Jacob uses a distinct voice and strong prose to guide readers through their gradual acceptance and eventual whole-hearted embrace of their gender-nonconformity. Definitely worth reading for everyone!
Anonymous 3 months ago
As a fellow young person and current college student, this memoir hit me really hard. I identify as a woman of color and many of the struggles that Jacob has experienced in creating and owning a space for themself, nurturing an identity that speaks unapologetically to themself, and making the most of their undergraduate career are ones that resonate deeply with me. Their unabashed, snarky tone has made this memoir an enjoyable read that I finished within one sitting. Finishing the book, I left it inspired and reflective on the arbitrary guidelines and values imposed on not only gender, but also race and sexuality. I've already recommended this to my friends; it's definitely a book that young people like me should pick up.
Anonymous 11 months ago
Jacob has a unique, personable voice that makes this a quick read. They challenge the idea that any single narrative can capture the trans experience and expanded my understanding of what it means to be transgender. The tone is generally humorous however Jacob takes time to seriously address the trauma they experienced as a result of being forced into the gender binary. I highly recommend this memoir because it not only addresses important issues, it also is a fun read.