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We Used To Be in Love and Now We Work Here: How To Stop Working at Marriage and Make Marriage Work for You

We Used To Be in Love and Now We Work Here: How To Stop Working at Marriage and Make Marriage Work for You

by Greg Behrendt, Amiira Ruotola


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Available for Pre-Order. This item will be available on January 14, 2020


You did it! You put a ring on it! Honeymoon, too! Newlywed bliss!

But now you REALLY have to marry your lives today, think about a family, maybe make a family, actually RAISE these kids, keep your career ambitions going while keeping your relationship going, get older, keep the fire burning, manage joint finances, bills and bills and bills, keep house together, manage meals together, take the kids to practice and SAT tutoring, …. HOLY SHIT! It’s become work, a fulltime job! Now add in real life crisis, she loses her job, he gets sick, there’s a death in the family, you’re feeling disconnected, you have capital “P” Problems, things are not going smoothly and no one knows how to talk about.

Greg and Amiira are tackling real problems to help you get through the rough patches and make the work of marriage a job you’re excited to show up for again. They explore all the adventures of modern wedlock, from the moment the honeymoon is over, and with gleeful candor, tremendous warmth, sharp humor, and piercing insight, look at what we who have decided to “settle down” hope to get out of our most lasting relationship.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781635765410
Publisher: Diversion Books
Publication date: 01/14/2020
Pages: 250
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x (d)

About the Author

Greg Behrendt is a comedian, author, musician and sometime screenprinter. He’s is the co- author of the New York Times bestselling books He’s Just Not That Into You, It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken, and It's Just a F***ing Date, as well as the former host of The Greg Behrendt Show and Greg Behrendt’s Wake Up Call. He has collaborated on all of these projects with his wife Amiira Ruotola Behrendt. Together they have written 3 books, developed projects for both film and television and co-authored a fashion blog called Outdress The Enemy. Greg currently spends time parenting his two lovely daughters, touring as a standup, recording his popular podcast Walking The Room, and playing with his surf, punk, reggae, ska band The Reigning Monarchs. He some day hopes to lie down.

Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt took to writing after retiring from the music business at a young age with little hearing left. Along with collaborating with her husband Greg Behrendt on “He’s Just Not That Into You” and co-writing “It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken”, she also produced “The Greg Behrendt Show” and “Greg Behrendt’s Wake Up Call” for television. Amiira continues to develop television sitcoms, writes a fashion blog called Outdress The Enemy ( and is currently writing her first novel. She lives in Los Angeles and simultaneously raises her two ridiculously incredible children while watching as much tennis as possible when not driving said children to school and dance class. She may or may not have been raised by spys.